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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by MumbaiLady, Dec 6, 2011.

  1. MumbaiLady

    MumbaiLady New IL'ite

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    We got news that BIL is having affairs with multiple women and the detective whom dh hired has proof. Now dh wants to show it to pil, his wife. But she will not believe. I am concerned for our safety as he is a criminal.
     
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  2. Priya16

    Priya16 IL Hall of Fame

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    Since you guys wanted some peace in life,it's better to stay away from it.Just live your life,that's all.

    What should I do?Just ignore them completely.
     
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    I believe in what goes around, comes around! There is no necessity to prove a point to anyone.
     
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    hi,
    Try to give some advise to you cosister to come out of the marriage.... afterall she is also a gal...guide her to get her own job.....if you are sure that it doesnt make another problem...



    cheers
    latha
     
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    It will cause more stress to your h's health.
     
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    Suryan03 Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Mumbailady,

    After reading your post, my thoughts:

    Like others already mentioned, According to me we all come into this world to do something good, we are born with a chance to do something good to someone who needs it. WHY WASTE YOUR ENERGY, HEALTH AND MONEY ON SOMETHING AS USELESS AS THIS?
    CUT OFF ALL RELATIONS WITH SUCH A FAMILY. AND PLS DO NOT SPEND MONEY ON CREATING MORE HEADACHE. INSTEAD SAVE IT FOR BOTH YOUR AND YOUR KIDS FUTURE.
     
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    tashidelek2002 IL Hall of Fame

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    I am confused......have you or have you not given headsup to the BIL?
     
  8. MumbaiLady

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    Dear ladies,
    Thank you for your imput.
    Some more about my cosister. She has chronic vaginal infections and i have told her many times indirectly that a husband can give it to his wife and he should also be treated at the same time so they both do not tranmit the infection back and forth. I was hoping that if she drags him to the doc, some medical test will reveal his lifestyle to her. But MIL found it ridiculous that a son should accompany his sick wife to the hospital.
     
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    When I read abt such people, I think that indeed truth is stranger than fiction. I see that you both want to expose your BIL , but they seem to so ruthless . Dont you think he would retaliate in some way? Somehow I feel it will be like opening a can of worms.
     
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    In my opinion, no good will come out of it. Your BIL can say that the pics are photoshopped or something. What will you do then? The best option for you is to remove yourself physically as far as is possible from them (the opposite end of the country if possible) and have minimal interaction with them.
     
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