Being Emotional.. Is It Good Or Bad??

Excellent, @bruised234.

 

Being an emotional person is one thing. Expressing your emotions is something else.
I am an emotional person. Even a poor kid on the road side would make me upset. I would go out of my way to help such unfortunate people to feel good. Else, my heart will keep on reminding this.
I feel emotional even about the movies and stories too. They directly go to my heart, instead of the brain.
Because I am ruled by my heart.
So many people take my emotional status to their advantage. They even cheat on me or take me for granted too. But I learn to find a middle ground by not loosing myself.

However, I do not cry that easily. I am very strong and very practical woman.
Even my beloved dad's death did not make me to break down that much. I cried and felt extremely sad too. But with the pilled up responsibilities before me, I could not sit and cry loud then.
I do not cry when my kid is vaccinated or treated with injections. I know, that's the most painful thing for a mom to watch. But believe me, I am the one who holds the kid during such times.

Contrastingly one of my ex friend looks very emotional. She cries even for a simple thing. Anything could make her cry just like that.
But she is not emotional, not even sympathetic to the poor. She is ruled by the brain and often think very practically.
She says she cries so that she looks vulnerable and thus forgiven for the mistakes. According to her, crying or showing weak emotions help her to escape from the consequences of the problems she creates.

That's when I learned being emotional is different from crying.

 

From your post OP, being emotional is not the main problem. Your husband treating you with lack of respect makes you upset. That is natural and you need to deal with his bullying. Remember that you are not the one at fault but he is - simply for treating a fellow human being shabbily.

There are ways and means of giving negative feedback diplomatically and in a respectful manner. Think of the last free times you were upset because of his criticism. Analyse the situation. Were you at "fault"? Or was he misreading a situation or was he insisting that his way is the only right way to do things? Could he have conveyed it better? Could you have stopped his meanness on its tracks by saying something then and there to take control of the situation? Think. Read up about being assertive and handling bullies. Analyse. Figure out how you can stay on top of the situation.

Usually we tend to fall into patterns of behaviour. So when a similar situation crops up again, handle it in a better manner to your satisfaction.

I have in the past practised my responses in front of a mirror with facial expressions and the right tone. It soon became second nature. In the very early years of marriage my husband used to be critical - because he didn't know any better how to treat his wife. Now even if he carries a joke too far, I manage to rein him in. It works.

 

I dont know how long you are married for...but in my case I stopped getting emotional in couple of years after marriage...now 8 years into marriage and it will be very difficult for my hubby to make me emotional anyway jokes apart being emotional is a good sign , it shows that you are still a human and being less emotional with hubby also shows that you have a healthy marriage. Just my observation.

 

Hi op I always feel I am highly emotional . As sgbv said if I see a kid in the street that will disturb me alot. I cry when I see dramatic movies. ( I try to stick to only comedy movies though !!) . Many situations it happen like I cry and later regret I must have done it Infront of people. ( Normally I rush to bathrooms in such stupid scenarios ) .
Sometimes I wonder " why can't I control, Why I am getting emotional "while I cry but I can't control. So yeah either I move out from that situation else deviate . Somehow I try to escape from the situation.
I get many compliments for "always smiling" .Once my friend commented me you are a happy person same time you get extreme emotional.( I cried when my friends got transfer !! I cried when I was leaving my cousin ,I do happy cry sometimes ) . Your both emotions doesn't match !! That made me think but I loose my tears at times.

I have passed the stage of crying Infront of husband and in laws though .Good for me
Waiting to pass at other moments too. Cause I feel crying Infront of people is not good "