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Astrology Prediction Made Me Worried

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by nolife, Jan 17, 2019.

  1. pocahontas

    pocahontas Gold IL'ite

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    I do not understand the fixation with astrology that Indian parents have. For the last twelve years - every year has a two three month period wherein I have every chance of getting married. My mother gets super excited and starts planning my wedding. While there is no groom in sight. When that does not happen, she goes into depression. She will blame for having high standards, for not taking to people properly, for not having good photos - you get the drift. If it happens, it’s all horoscope. If not, it’s all me.

    If only parents spent as much time thinking of their kids marriages instead of just weddings.
     
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    I don't believe in horoscopes. Not practical when one is living in a foreign land, and the "prospects" our children meet-up-with and like, could be beyond the scope of horoscopes.
    Sometimes I think children should not "bring home".whomever they are currently "seeing". There is no goldilocks kind of "just right" vetting visit. Either it is too early, or it is too late. It is best for parents to be in the dark. Keeps the anxieties in check, because it is a mother's job to worry.
     
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    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    It is the problem with me too ..my parents keep accusing me that I am not talking properly to guys. My dad keeps telling me to be submissive and not show intelligence. They even tell me that I am not competent enough to find love as there are plenty of men in companies.. They don't understand that I go out to work and I am not very social person. I even killed my self respect and joined dating apps to see if I can find any.. all are for sex but not love.. i see no true love..living a dead life is tough

     
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    You are trying to find true love before marriage which is very much difficult to find even after marriage. Dont search for a true love you should either search for true person who has some moral values and should have his own independent thought process irrespective of his family. If the person is right he will protect you from everything and eventually the love might happen. It's not possible to find true love in a crowd. Sex is not so much private these days so people feel free to ask for it but thats the truth of the time. Also with their privacy maintained in dating websites they don't have any fear of anyone. First make yourself positive then only you will be able to see positive.
     
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    Oh..my. It is just an opinion from the PoV of all the worriers who have sent out kids to the dating olympics.

    I happened to look at the post from @messedup. I think sex is still a private thing, and if someone were to bring it up or ask for it too early in a relationship, well... it is for the other party to exercise due diligence and judgement to respond appropriately. I am not saying "just say no", but simply advancing the notion of caution and good judgement. As a parent, I wouldn't want to know how well my child "knows" the prospect that I would (someday) get to meet. We deploy that infamous "don't ask; don't tell" idea in these matters, just so that our anxieties don't kill us too early.

    In the old days of traditional marriage-arranging, sending of a daughter to live in a collective family of a kumb-mela crowd, where individual happiness is subsumed to the the collective's success, it was quite alright to have a suboptimal satisfaction in sex. Even a few quickies in the dead of night to achieve their quota of two or three kids would be deemed a happy married life. It is much tougher on the young lot these days. Parents interfering in their affairs to regulate how they ought to go about the hunt should be the last thing they need.

    I plan to remain on the sidelines, and see the game.
     
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