Are Relationships Replaceable?

madras2018 · Apr 16, 2018

Sandycandy said: ↑

Honestly the news of Sheryl Sandburg dating again quickly did surprise me, specially considering that her husband passed away suddenly and not because of a prolonged illness. I think when the spouse is unwell for a long time one can make peace with the loss and be prepared for it . But I would think that a sudden loss would need some time for processing the grief and loss of the loved one. The idea of a soulmate is so ingrained in our psyche that the thought of a person finding another soulmate quickly does not seem right. But to each his own.
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I dont know about soulmate stuff. I needed more than a year before I could be ready to get a new dog
when my 10 y/o dog died. Go figure !

shravs3 · Apr 17, 2018

Sunburst said: ↑

Couldn’t agree more . And this is an online forum where people get together to discuss everything , well almost everything under the sun . What do they expect us to do here ? Sing bhajan kirtan ? And if others have so much issues with our discussions , why even bother reading it ? Better to change ourself than trying to change the world !
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Sunny I’m reading all those posts now I had missed them earlier !

September2015 · Apr 20, 2018

I agree. It's selfish, very hypocritical and opportunistic. If they get a wife for him they get a free slave get it? They save money + someone without kids = not having to make any real adjustments on their end, they want a person to devoted to them only, if she has kids her time will be divided right? Awful people.
It's all about family needs, when does family care about the one who is hurting and making sacrifices?
They are worse than my husband's family or just as terrible... Instead my in-laws use their son as their personal ATM machine $$$$ for their whims. They make a bad investment, he gets the honor of paying the bill, FOREVER. SMH My husband is so afraid of losing THEM. They must be afraid of losing HIM. SMH

Deborah said: ↑

I had called up my In-laws today.I was kind of taken aback/surprised but not in a good way/bewildered (can't find the right word,it seems) by a news . A relative on H's side lost his wife last year.Her death was untimely and shocking to all of the family.She must have been 40ish.She left behind 2 kids,both in teenage years.Her daughter and Husband was inconsolable for days. Much to my disbelief ,there were talks of his remarriage between the elders of the family even before a month had passed.I was shocked that how people think so practically that it seems almost cruel.For God's sake,the woman had been dead only for a month.H's opinion was that the relative loved his wife too much to get married again.Well ,today I was told that they have almost fixed his match. Its been just 6 months.He is onboard (had to be convinced) & kids too like the new mom .And the reason for remarriage cited was that his mother is too old and keeps poor health .She needs help.The other DIL can't manage the entire household on her own. I was honestly sad to realize that they need a caretaker more than a companion for the man.They just need a helping hand.Couldn't they just go and hire some more maids ?Where did the love of the husband go that he forgot 16 -17 years spend together? He could have waited at least a year.And he is not even marrying for love or say companionship,just for everyone's convenience. Are we all replaceable as wives/mothers ? Does a relationship mean nothing in this practical world.? Moreover,they were looking for someone without kids .Isn't that selfish to want someone to come and take care of your motherless kids but can't welcome her own kid? All this just got me thinking about the futility of relationships. Any thoughts from other ILs would be appreciated.
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