My best friend,just called off his engagement. He is a gentleman with a good,progressive and terrific family. Got engaged to a girl basically ,under pressing circumstances especially from the girls family.(You know how things in arranged marriages are) She too was a good girl nothing against her. While both of them lived in different countries ,they talked for almost 10 months . While he found that they were absolutely incompatible in this period,the girl just wanted to get married at all costs.She was nearing thirty and may be that was a pressure for her. She talked to her friends and family that this boy does not treat her well. Right from day one whenever the boy would ask her about her expectations from her partner,she would say that she'll adjust to whatever he wishes and she as such does not have any expectations. He tried to continue with the relation and then get married to her as he had given his word and would like to stick to it.But after a lot of mental turmoil he finally decided to call off the engagement as the scope of happiness for either of them was bleak. He told me it would be injustice to both of them. Now what happens after he steps back that the girl and her family become very abusive and badmouth about the boy and his family in their common social circles which actually is causing a lot of hurt to the good hearted parents who can be the best ILs in the world. I am just putting forward this situation in front of all of you as to how wrong or right my friend has been . My perspective is that temporarily may be the girl and her parents are upset but in the long run the incompatibility would have ruined her happiness.Why can they not see the real happiness and were so hell bent on getting he married even when it was obvious that a lot of adjustments needed to be made and happiness for either of them was no guarantee.