Did you happen to have an initial sit-down conversation with her on what your expectations for her are and what she expects from you? In my case, I can barely make home-cooked meals for us so I told her frankly: Could you please bring your meals - breakfast and lunch ? I know sometimes you won't be able to - we will always have bread, eggs and cheese at home - so please make yourself a sandwich on those days. For snacks - we will always have fruit and coffee/tea - so please help yourself. Let me know if there is something else specific that you would like and I will add to our weekly grocery list. I try to think of it - as what I would like my manager to tell me clearly - unsaid expectations are really hard. One of my close friends is different - she doesn't mind cooking a little extra and likes that nanny and her two young kids sit down and eat the same stuff together - encourages kids to eat the same rather than pine for any treat/different food that nanny is choosing to eat that day. Their nanny was also non-Indian - and loved eating family food. I've made my own set of mistakes in this "initial conversation" where each person has to clearly say what they want out of the interaction. Each time - I realized the "unsaid" thing (thinking it is so obvious) - usually comes back to bite us. So need to say the hard things initially. I also have a sit-down talk every 1-month - let's look back at the last 1 month. what did you like about working with us? And what did not work? And I also take it upon me praise her for is working well and what we might need to work on. Seems too formal but it really helps me say somethings that I have watched over the past month and they can also share something that is not working well for them. You could try this if "food" is the only issue and if it is sorted out you would be happy with her services and she seems happy at your home.