Aggressive Sil

Honestly the question you put forth was wrong..It is obvious that you think she is expecting you and your husband to do something for her..Irrespective of what the truth is,you could have simply remained silent or tried to change the topic subtlely instead of commenting on this.

 

There is no limit for greed, even if OP gets more stuff they will demand more, her SIL will find a way to pick a fight on what was gifted, OP what you did was right just ignore her tantrums and just do what you think is right, you can get some gifts for her kids and don’t get anything for her or her DH

 

If I where you I would have told her what gives her the right to think that she is worthy of getting more gifts from you?

 

Gifting should come from the heart, so if your heart says no, then don't give.

If your hubby is ok with you not giving, then let it go.

But if this is 'giving out of obligations', then keep it minimal, simple n nothing expensive. Like one dress for each of them, or something casual or just for the children.

Guess it's also important for you to understand that nothing is ever gona be enough. There's some saying like "even if you drop the whole world under their foot, they will still say it's crooked, it's not enough n ask you for more', so some people are always in that category. Don't bother.

 

This has to be dealt by her husband.No wonder her SIL got angry when OP asked her directly.

Actually if the brother knows the limits he will stop his sister from Ddemanding more.But if he himself doeant realise or if OP is unable to make her DH understand, then no point in blaming the SIL.

So i feel OP unnecessarily got into this issue and got a bad name.

 

Her SIL made the comment to OP and her brother was not there so she deserved that reply.

The brother knows the limit, that’s a nice joke.

 

See if the brother is interested in giving into his sister's demands,is there any use if OP interferes and still gets a bad name?

And worst case if her husband still goes ahead in gifting his sister,then OP will not have any value in her say.So better to talk to husband and convince him for their own investment plans rather than confrontimg the SIL directly..

And iam sure the SIL and the MIL will never forget this episode that easily..anything happens in future and if the brother doesn't give gifts for even valid or personal reasons, OP will be blamed..

And if you disagree iam completely fine since this is only my point of view..

 

Husband and wife are one team if they don’t see themselves that why then they have to fix that fist before handling the SIL.

And worst case if her husband still goes ahead in gifting his sister,then OP will not have any value in her say.

That’s how a bunch of people thought and created Sati Sati (practice) - Wikipedia they thought there is no value in a women’s life when her husband dies

 

I meant her inlaws or SIL won't bother about her views since the brother listens to them..

And i wish to stop here..I dont want to hijack OP's thread.Hopefully more ILites come forward and give their views..