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A terrible experience!

Discussion in 'Pregnancy & Labor' started by SmitaMatthew, Dec 10, 2012.

  1. SmitaMatthew

    SmitaMatthew New IL'ite

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    I am 23 years old and engaged to be married. My fiancé and I decided to have a short vacation together to know each other better as ours is an arranged marriage. We went to Goa with a group of friends in August. We had a great time there, during the day as well as night! I was feeling so happy and lucky to have him as my husband as he is such an amazing person. But the problem soon started when I got to know that I was 4 weeks pregnant. It was a complete shock for me as I had never thought that something like this would happen. My family rage was indescribable. They couldn’t digest the fact that their daughter became pregnant before marriage.
    My marriage is on 25<sup>th</sup> February 2013 and if I had allowed the baby to stay I would be around 6 months pregnant. My parents thought it would be a complete shame on our entire clan! Hence they forced me to go in for an abortion. I discussed this with Arpit, my fiancé, and he was of the opinion that we should go ahead with my pregnancy and post-porne our wedding date. After all it was our baby. But both sides of our family strongly opposed to this and my inlaws also forced us to abort the baby.
    I went to a big hospital for an abortion as I was dead scared about the whole procedure. Although the doctor was very helpful and considerate, the procedure did not go as smooth as expected. I faced some bleeding complications in my abortion and the pain was unbearable. I constantly got the thought that God is punishing me for my evil deed of killing an innocent baby. Moreover the scars of the operation not only left a mark on my conscience but also blemishes on my belly. Now I cannot wear the lehenga which I had purchased for my wedding as these scars are visible through it.
    I am sharing my experience with you guys because I don’t want anyone to go through what I had to endure. The doctor later told me that in cases like this, where we have an unexpected sex, having an emergency contraceptive pill within 72 hours is a life saving option. She said after marriage in case we have sex without protection and are not planning for a baby then having an emergence contraceptive pill will cause no harm. However it should be taken on “once-in-a-while” basis.
    Ladies, anything is better an abortion. Please take precautions while having sex or take an emergency contraceptive pill, but avoid abortion at any cost!

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  2. Tashsin

    Tashsin Gold IL'ite

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    OMG what a hell....can't you wait till marriage for sex...you killed an innocent baby.....
     
  3. GaythriV

    GaythriV Platinum IL'ite

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    Bygones are bygones. what you have done is a great blunder. I would like to say your elders should have thought over it before doing it. They are responsible too. Don't taunt yourself regarding this and make yourself steady to start a new life afresh as I feel you are regretting for your mistake. My best wishes.
     

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