Dear friends, I come here with a 2 set of problem which are kind of inter related please help me out taking a right decision. 1. I work in US in IT field and after great effort (on my part) and sacrifice on my mother, father, husbands and daughters part I got a full time job in a big company. I have around 6 years of experience but the experience is distributed 4 years in India then 4 years break (where I kept on studying /attending classes) 2 years in US. 2. Luckily for me the 2 years of experience in US in my first company was fantastic everybody was helpful I gained back my confidence which kind of helped me to get a full time job. 3. Now coming to current situation this being a big company the team is distributed my manager is in UK, all the team is in India and in US there were supposed to be 3 of us. The 3 of us were me, my TL who went for sabbatical as soon as I joined and a third person who has been in this project for the past 10 years and is causing me a lot of grief. 4. Now my team lead left I was sort of left to this 1 person’s mercy and from the very beginning he was very passive aggressive telling me things like one of the other person who interviewed me had rejected me actually but still they hired you. Then 4 people who were working before you all got fired. But this is not my issue I don’t get fazed by these thrash talk. 5. My main issue is this person was the sole individual who could help me to understand the project or help me understand the technology or understand whom to contact in case of issue, but soon I realized he was withholding information from me which according to me is the cheapest way to increase ones importance. 6. Now all of you will say why don’t you complain to your manager but my manager thinks in his own words that this individual is a “superman” and has the impression of that this person bends over backward to help people but the problem is this for this individual I am a direct threat (he is a consultant) and helping me is like pushing him out of the project. 7. So what should I do? I am almost 9 months in this project but I am literally of no use since my lack of knowledge. My fear is if I escalate this issue the 10% help that he extends sometimes he will stop that too then my productivity might end up being negative. 8. Should I just bear this and gain whatever 10% he throws at me? (which I am currently doing) This brings to my second part of problem 1. I can get help from our team in India but for that I need to be in office at 8am now to be in office at 8am, I have to leave my house by 7:30am drop my daughter to day care and reach office. 2. Like all Indian kids she has eating issues and does not eat much in daycare so at least I make it a point that she finishes a complete breakfast before leaving to school so to get all that done I will have to wake her up at 6:30am which I feel is so unfair. 3. We sleep at around 10:30pm. 4. So please help me with a schedule how should I divide my evening to from 5:30pm in such a way that my daughter can sleep early and wake up early? 5. Also I need to find time to study on my own just in case the above issue of me not performing well escalates so much that I need to change my job. If anybody has more questions please ask but I need to get this sorted out.