A Good Read - 10 superb ways to impress your mum-in-law - coutesy TOI

Sorry, but I cannot understand what do you mean by unknown corner and unknown room. What are the acceptable corners and acceptable rooms according to you where MILs can be seated and which aren't? Also what is wrong if a maid serves the MIL? Will the food not taste the same? Is there a risk of contamination/poisoning? You cried for a whole week at this? I have to say there there are people suffering much much worse than this. I wonder if you ever sleep a good nights sleep or do you think of suffering people all the time and cry. Or are you sensitive to only and only an MIL's pain?

 

So, is she your golden hearted neighbor or someone very close to you? In that case, you should have been busy helping them serve food to other guests, MIl and everyone and sharing their workload rather than sitting and observing the plight of the poor MIL. Hope that doesn't sound too insensitive to you.

 

Good post...
I liked the intention rather than the article..

 

Yes, newspapers are doing a great job, and TV serials too.:thumbsup
BTW, what are the basic manners? The hosts should be serving the family members, while the maids serve the guests?
No seriously, I am wondering, if you are so close to them, why weren't you giving the MIL company and helping the hosts to serve or better still serving and looking after your own MIL. Since you are such a good dutiful DIL, I am sure your MIL lives with you and you had taken her with you to the party. And if you don't know them that well, how would you even know the inside equation of their family and how can you even judge someone without knowing the inside story. (No offense, please)

 

I really dont try to impress my MIL. i am what i am as i have accepted you the way you are so do you .Yes only one thing i can do is that when i am a MIL i will try my best to understand give all the freedom to my DIL that i had wished as DIL so that she dont feel the sameway as i do for mine MIL, and will also teach my daughter if i had one to be a good noninterfearing SIL.

At least this is what i can do..

 

@swt.Charu
Wats so surprising!! Which world you belong to!! Yes I havent seen many MILs being mal treated..Instead the society which we belong to,I have witnessed mostly the DILs being treated badly..I am not talking of individual cases.Not all MILs are bad nor all DILs are bad..We find both kinds of cases but mostly DILs are decent enough and MILs are dominating in Indian scenario.Generally the MILs who are not treated properly are the ones who have tortured or ill treated their DILs in their heydays so when the tables turn and they become very old,if the DIL is not a SAINT,MIL will reap what she had sown years ago..
My own grandmother(after gradpa died) didnt use to attend social functions(OUT OF CHOICE-before you object this too) and no one forced her to do so.She didnt feel like!!

This particular case you are quoting might be one exception or you must not be knowing the entire truth so,why to make opinions and cry whole week for that..
If you felt so bad with her plight and are also close to her,why didnt you raise any opinion or objection there?
And why did you see this isolated incident only?
If she was being mal treated otherwise also,why didnt you do anything about it?
And if you were not aware of other incidents,sorry but you have no claim of being so close to her!
Why didnt you talk to her family or better, report the matter to old people helpline?
You should have done something for that poor lady instead of eating,coming home and crying whole week..

By the way,I have only heard,seen and read about DILs being burnt..Not a single case I have heard about where a MIL was set to fire by a DIL..No offense please..

 

If the thread had a pulse it will be throbbing with so much hatred and negativity.
Granted some of ur MIls are difficult..but please for heavens sake don't turn every thread into one
which bashes up in laws...
I really request the mods to have a sticky...Bashing Inlaws.