9 Month Old Very Clingy And Not Yet Sitting Please Help

@shwetapj ,

This is common in the nuclear family. The little one's behaviour is normal. Since she is with you most of the time she behaves that way. Start putting her on the floor with her favourite toys. Try to play peek a boo game.

You can even give her a small spoon and plate and be with you near the kitchen so that you can do your work.

Sitting, they will do it. Give some support around her her make her sit in the middle of the pillows. You have to closely moniter for few days. Later she will sit without any support.

Do not pick her as soon as she starts crying or screaming. Instead talk to her . It will be tough but you have to practice this else it will be tiring for you as well.

 

Please consult a doctor if you feel she is not keeping up to the milestones of growth. Do not postpone.

 

Milestones are different for each one. Mine was late by a few months in everything, but doc said it's nothing to worry and don't overthink n stress.

And they were right, all the milestones were achieved but just with a lil bit of delay and now you won't know the difference. If it bothers you, be sure to check with a doc. But most kids just pick it up.

About the clingy part, most kids are, but it is more so when they grow up only with us. I went through the same thing. There was no such thing as a second of privacy or breaks. They will be in the bathroom too.

It may change over time. Esp after playschool. But you can try a few things to control it.

Never give in for every cry, tantrums, screams. It will just get worse.

Teaching them to play alone is something we need to train them on. Give stuff that really interests them n let them sit in front of you n play with it and you won't participate but say you will be right there and doing your things. This takes time, but will work.

Keep them occupied. Esp once she starts walking, you can give her house work, carry this, keep it there, clean this. i did with my son too. Sometimes it ends up as double work for us but most of the time, it distracts them, helps with their excessive energy, they feel proud of their accomplishments and keeps us sane.

Distraction n direction can work. Just experiment with a few stuff and see which works for you. Don't worry, you aren't alone.

 

You can try this, helps the baby sit upright .
Amazon.com : Bumbo Floor Seat, Blue : Infant Sitting Chairs : Baby
Babies can sit upright anywhere between four to nine months. If you are concerned , do consult the pediatrician .

 

Behaviors will be different for every kid. Even this is the same as for ourselves too. Let her free to whatever she wants to. Don't bothered much, these behaviors are common during the early stages. She will be with someone which she feels safe and it is a problem at all. What you have to do is try to mingle her with the grand parents and any other frequently visiting relatives or friends. Don't compel, just let it be. The rest will be fine.

 

OP - i have gone through your other posts as well and i think your baby is 11 months old now. All babies are clingy.I remember ,My daughter used to wake up and cry when i used to get up and go to pee in the middle of the night.Yes! I was scared to even pee.Lol... Dont worry.Ask your husband to keep an eye on her when he is home.When you are by yourself,put her in something she cant get out off by herself - a highchair, a swing ,crib etc and go ,run and use the restroom as quickly as you can.It gets better with time. These days she just keeps knocking on the bathroom door till i come out.