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  1. Sep 25, 2013 #1
    suchitha

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    littl

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    Re: Really donno wat to do?

    Hello Suchitha,


    I Understand your Situation, but you just cant leave him forever ( even for that moment) because of his Big mouth problem, its good that he is just talking anyway but not manhandling.. JK..

    you just discuss with him this way when he is normal..
    lets take some "thing" (anything breakable but not glass) handover it to him when you think he is angry or when u think he's gonna open his Big mouth, or

    you can break that thing your self if he won't stop even after you handover to him and even after he breaks it himself. when everything settle down ask him to buy that same thing again or buy urself. continue this process... Sounds Silly huh..? but that's a way one should face problems without arguing or extending this kinda issues, Good luck :thumbsup
     
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    guesshoo

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    Re: Really donno wat to do?

    Hi OP

    the good bit here is that your husband agrees that he has an anger problem. There are resources online and lots of books on anger management. When he apologises, be firm and tell him he needs to do something concrete about managing his anger. Give him books. See if there are anger mgmt classes around where you live. Request him to do something concrete to fix his issues Since your DD is starting to learn. His undesirable behaviours

    all the best
     
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    ramyakrish1

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    Re: Really donno wat to do?

    Dear Suchitha,

    1. Anger Management (like Guesshoo has suggested) - By Yoga, Pranayama etc.

    2. If he drives in Bangalore, the stress is going to be worse. He should consider public transport

    3. Alcohol or smoking ? Both are bad

    4. Hypertension. Please get it checked.

    5. Music. Something soothing

    6. Get a fish tank. Ask him to sit and watch the fish for 30 minutes. It can be therapeutic

    7. Any game that is physically taxing. Tennis, badminton, swimming..

    There are anger management classes in Bangalore. PM me if you need details
     
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    Re: Really donno wat to do?

    Make him realize the impacts of his behavior. Do not give him the normal family life if he continues to behave in the same way. Let him realize what he's losing/ can loose in future, if he doesn't behave properly.

    You need to put your foot down whenever his behavior is unacceptable.
     
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