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We call each other by name in front of parents and in laws.... and we have a common nick when we are alone

Dh wanted me to call him ONLY by name even in presence of his parents & siblings...He insisted upon this well before our wedding...I was hesitant in the beginning (New DIL...what will the in-laws think..all that going through my head :hide
But they were absolutely cool... My parents we not at all ok with it in the beginning bonk but now they are fine

 

we have nicknames for each other.. i call him by his nickname more when we are in public unless i have to call out to him or something.. when i am talking to his parents, i usually refer to him by his name.. and when i was in India, i refered him to by his name as well.. and I think everyone was ok with it.. my DH speaks English and English only.. while he understands Indian languages well, the other language that he speaks is Spanish and Japanese :bowdown neither of which I know an ounce of, so his family was totally fine with the fact that I refer to him by his name.

 

Interesting thread i must say


My Husband & I address each other with our names...... we share a very friendly relationship ( like calvin and hobbes )so none of us believes in being too formal.


Cheers:thumbsup
Simi

 

Hi

Nice thread. My hubby elder to me by 4 years. My hubby is very particular about giving respect to everybody. (Inlaws both sides, anybody elder to us & always take their blessings etc etc). I use his name call ie.is OK to him but I don't use singular ... always plural. He always corrects my son too if he uses singular to anyone.

veen

 

Neither my hubby nor I call each other (by name)... (i dont even remember when he last called me out by my name...) We avoid using names; he addresses me "nee" (informal form) while I address him "neenga" (formal/with respect form). When we married, I used to call him "nee" when alone, but somehow, it has become "neenga", esp. after being with other elders for quite some time. I feel uneasy to call him "nee" and so, its just my choice. BTW, he is just 2 years older than me.

Nowadays, I pull his leg by calling him "appaaaa" (father) along with my daughter! He hates that as that makes him feel "old"! Big Laugh
Sandhya

 

I have always addressed my husband with his name since the time I used to monitor the class in 8th grade while asking him to shut his mouth !

I continue it till date !!

The only time I get formal / traditional in addressing him is when we are amidst his people !! I still call his name but do not say dirty words !!

Infact all his cousins ( women ) call their husbands by name that none of our older aunts expect the DILs to call otherwise !

My mom hates it though but has given up on correcting me !!

And yes , since I love him sooo much the respect falls in place automatically !!

 

I call him na..............yes you heard it right na.
Dont ask where in the world i got fixed with this word,i have no answer.

 

I Address elders in the family or elders in general as "JI " or Garu (in telugu)

Call my hubby by name ... he does the same.

 

interesting topic.....

when i had initially known him..... i used 'Ji' after his name and i used to cal him "aap"..... we were then only professionally acquinted!!!! gradually when we knew each other more we came on names and "tum"......

i generally call each other by names or nick names or whatever we feel like calling and we address each other with "tum", i dont like using "tu"...... but after enagement my MIL wanted me to not take his name and use "aap" etc. atleast infront of elders.......... so i try to abide by that most of the time..... though there are slippages sometimes as i am so used to calling him by name :hide:

my DH never insisted on using any formal respect.... but teases me when i use "aap" sometime just like that..... he would say kya baat hai so much respect today.... i am not used to it !!!! he he:rotfl..... by mistake if i use "tu" sometimes..... he doesnt mind at all but does points it out..... i myself dont like using "tu"...... he always calls me "tum" an sometime "aap"