How Do You Deal With A Dramatic Too Sensitive Sil?

Keep a distance once siblings are married. Especially if it is a brother - sister relationship. Stick to the usual how are you - how is the weather - what is for lunch questions. If she volunteers information, fine, if not, that's great too.

That's what I do. Initially, I took the initiative to talk, when there was no response and a few incidents that made me realize she doesn't like the fact that I am in her life, I restricted myself. My conversation with my brother too has become less informal. I weigh my words carefully just so it does not become an issue. If it changes for the better, great, but for now, this will have to do.

 

That's how it is OP. Even exchanging formalities is a big deal. Other than the weather don't talk anything. In my case, asking the customary "what did you cook today?" was also misinterpreted. I finally decided that I should give them their space and let them be themselves. Why should I interfere in their lives. My heartache is that I get compared to my SIL too and just like in your case, I also had to face the allegation that I don't speak at all. What can you speak with someone who misinterprets anything you talk and makes fun of you behind the back? Madam does not like wishing me on my birthday, so she wishes a day before and that too on whatsapp and I am supposed to thank her, be friendly with her for everything. So on MY anniversary, I have to visit her because she cannot visit us, this was from my husband. I can't help but burn with jealousy seeing her. Better you don't get into it. Just leave them alone after a few years, she will realize the value of relationships by herself. Even if she doesn't you don't have to bother. Ultimately one day, everybody has to go alone.

 

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Hi,

Your SIL is lucky to have a SIL like you! I regret for not having a SIL like you. My SIL doesn't even want to see me. My DH keeps forcing me talking to her, I used to talk a lot to her initially but she never responded properly and what every gifts I brought her to keep her she never liked them and keeps irritating my DH. I hope my DH understand my feelings .
Please dont change for any one! Be the person who spreads smiles

 

I did face similar situation .. I have two brothers both married .. we used to be very close before marriage things suddenly changed after marriage .. my sil think am earning more money here n expects costly gifts every time visit India .. but I could not satisfy them no matter what I do .. when expectations became more n more I distanced them .. now I feel very good light bcoz I don't have any expectations from them .. but my brothers msg me but no phone calls.. I never complained about them bcoz don't want create an issue in their life's .. I have my own family to take care n deal 100 issues .. when I will have fight with hubby I feel bit sad like I don't have any support even from two brothers but not much time I will patch up with hubby n forget that thing ..

 

There are millions of brothers (older as well as younger) who had walked out on the street with their sisters, to be escorts while she went shopping, to the temple, to the station to see her off to college, and receive her back, gave her rides in his two wheeler, and eventually went out of his way to do favors to her husband, and then came to the hospital every time she delivered a niece or nephew, hosted those children during summer holidays in his home. And took them on educational trips with his own children. "Maternal Uncle"s are such dears.

Mine as well as my children's are just too darn stereotypical, no need to say anything specific.

 

Same thing in my family. My mother now hardly talks to her brother. How many times can one intiate a conversation?? My mum's SIL will talk with her side of family for hours but not once would she call her SILs.