Relationships Forum Chatter & Grey Matter

I read a new story couple of years back about Haryana men importing brides from Kerala and far off places ... Kerala brides have a better deal because they keep conditions and are educated and can walk away if those are not met. The women from Bihar and Odissa suffer and treated very badly ...

I don't see situation improving but I see women trafficking increasing in these places where girl child ratio has fallen significantly ..

 

True, that is just why I don't hold too much hope of men having a tough time when there are less girls available to marry. It seems to be a no-win situation.

At the same time, unless educated girls break the shackles of caste, community and religious requirements, we will be stuck in this situation of "it is our tradition, it is the custom in our community" etc. When people look outside the country to find partners, that might the beginning of the end of evils such as dowry system and the one upmanship of the man's family over the woman's.

 

Yes, party who is suffering needs to take steps for change, but at the same time party who is acting selfish and didnt want to let go of unfair advantages which they are getting is not a very good scenario if we want a good, moral and ethical society. We can say it as jungleraj, where one party is comfortably getting unfair advantages and want to extract more n more from other, while other sufferer party has to fight alone....
and then the party who is already getting unfair advvantage cry about unfairness of other party...quite Hippocratic...
i think all the people who act arrogant and feel entitled on being parents of son, should get these manipulative DILs which people are talking about here...it will serve them well....its like choro ke ghar bhi aate hai chor.....

 

poster didnt mention,what was discussed before marriage in that case , even why DIL took that decision it was not mentioned , then what the above verdict can be called???? prejudice???

 

yes satchi, socialists predicts that crime against women will be increased, and polyandry will take place.... all in all a very horrible future is awaiting for our society if girls ratio dont improve...but unfortunately in this era, many people dont think about future generations, just want to get a son at any cost, for their petty selfish interest. Thats why i think if this unduly and unfair advantages will be stopped, condition may improve.

 

IMO all the elderly who are in need of care, should get care, whether they get it from their daughter, or their son or by dil, or by son in law or by stranger, it should not matter as long as they cared for.

 

It is always the oppressed who fights .. The WOMAN need to change their thinking when she is a daughter ,then she becomes wife and then she becomes an In law , if she does not change then no change

As long as woman sees her marriage and husbandas end goal nothing will change

Your wish of manipulative dils will not change the system , she may turn Ito a manipulative Mother of a son and battle continues .....

 

She mentioned it as a unilateral decision , I am deriving the meaning because there is a presence of specially a Widowed mother and it is very unlikely in our society thAt son would have agreed to leave widowed mother before marriage and it is not uncommon that girls get coached by family before marriage and convinced to accept the marriage If the guy is a good catch And just like others who are supporting DIL saying issues with MIL may have forced her to take step .

Any other clarifications you need ?

 

Oh stranger , I see who will relieve daughters and sons of their responsibility

 

again prejudice...