My Story Of Infertility

Hi elsa,

I can completely relate to your situaltion as i am sailing in the same boat. Age is not on my side also. But before going for aggrresive procedure of ivf, my doc wants to make surr that we tried enough iuis. With me follicle rupture issue is there.
I know its well said than done, that don't take stress. I can't stop thinking about it , because its running in my mind every second...ttc is tough! And if its for long ots worse! Stress is the main culprit we all know but still can't stop taking stress.
My doctor gave me examples, that might boost your confidance also.She had a patient who got married in 19, she tried 5 ivfs and concieved finally at the age of 40. But not with her own eggs, with donor eggs. She had twins and then at the age of 43, she concieved again naturally.
We don't know whats there for us..we get impatient. And with so many efforts, negativity fills in our minds. And because of that we keep on seeing negative results. I am trying to get rid of this negativity.
We have so many examples on this forum. Read their stories and get ready for next cycle. I do the same. Who knows, coming cycle might become our lucky charm!

 

Dear friends.....
I don't know what IUI...IVF procedures are like...But one thing is for sure that all you lovely ladies will someday feel the kicks and punches of your LO in your blessed wombs...
Keeping you in my prayers...

 

Hi Elsa

I understand your position. If it is heartening for you... Let me share you my story!!

I was married at 26 and I conceived at 27 only to pass through a crisis of missed abortion... and had to wait for almost 9 years and I was blessed with a son at the age of 35.. Natural conception.

While we are waiting month after month, the perseverance wears thin and at times I have felt that I would lose my integrity and start feeling jealous about my own friends and close relatives.. life seems easier for them.. marriage this month... pregnant next month... anniversary with a kid... I understand the agony.

Too many advises start pouring from various different angles.. too many parihaarams, suggestions for ob/gyn specialists and procedures...

But I always remembered my Dad's advice:- If He wants to bless me with a kid, even celibacy will not prevent it (few minutes will do If He decides its not good for me now... then irrespective of whatever measures I take... it shall not be now. It will be very hard for me to endure when I am not given. But, He knows when, how and what is good for me and He will give me when it is good for me.

It might look like a defeatist theorem for some.. but trust me.. it worked for me. I didn't undergo any treatment, I conceived naturally and today I am a proud mother of a non-stop chatterbox - five years old

All researches conclude that stress inhibits any treatment. I am not against any treatments, but.. take them in a relaxed way. Do not stress out. Be happy with your hubby.. Treat him as your eldest son.. Take one step at a time.. My prayers with you.

Sorry for the long post. But whenever I see a would-be mom's agony.. I have been there..done it and can never stop talking it out.

All the best

 

Elsa, don't get dishearten........can feel the pain you are going through as i have sailed the same boat.... you have to have patience yes it is easy to say but dear so much negativity doesn't help the infertility... IUI is a procedure with less result you can check online but doctors prefer this method before suggesting IVF as in IVF you have to though many roller coasters mental, financial ....

you never know you might conceive in the next cycle as these procedures sometimes trigger our body and we conceive... so try to be relaxed as much as possible again that is hard but you have to find ways to divert your mind... i know we can't stop ourself from not thinking as we want this so badly but try to remind yourself that soon you are going to be a mother ...

forget about your relatives and neighbors.... everyone's life is different .... read the success stories here in IL so many ILites you will find who have gone through so much and delivered their bundle of joys... good luck and loads of baby dust !!