Need Suggestions - Should I Wait For Him?

I would give him the benifit of doubt and just drop an email or message asking if he got your bio-data. If he still does not respond, take the hint and forget him. May be he does not want to sound desperate, may be he thought of contacting you a week before your meetup, or may be he is really not interested. It is all speculation, as of now I dont see any mojor thing to worry about. Best wishes OP!

 

Try to email him once. All the best

 

It's possible that his parents didn't quite approve or they did approve but he is yet to communicate. But what worries me more is how clinically he is going about dealing with a matrimonial alliance as if he's a hiring manager who is hiring for a role.

My personal experience tells me to never believe a guy who puts horse before the cart- i.e makes big talk about marriage date, time and location etc before he and the woman have met or even begun to get to know each other. Plus going by his query on 'how long you will take to decide after meeting' indicates he's in a rush as if he's trying to schedule his wedding just right. On a lighter note, I'm wondering if he's already blocked the dates, paid for a marriage hall, signed on caterers and is interviewing several women simultaneously, waiting to 'sign-on' the perfect one.

I can only speak from personal experience and my approach is to never tail a guy. I'd say forget him right now. If he doesn't give you a heads-up 10 days to 2 weeks before the meeting, you should be making other plans. Also, when he can be so lax and inattentive in calling or initiating conversations at this stage, if I were in your place, I'd even go as far as missing his call at least once and let him try and reach me again if he's really that serious. I wouldn't be emailing him or contacting him to follow up on biodata and such. Are you a job applicant ? Do you have to email him to remind him that you exist ? I'm sure he got your bio, I'm sure he's sent them across to his parents, and I'm sure his parents have given feedback too. I don't believe the man was so 'BUSY' during his weekend to not be able to even call a woman he is supposedly interested in.

If you think my advice is brutal, all I will say is having a no-nonsense approach is the best way to weed out flaky characters and to avoid ending up in a marriage where you are continuously second guessing yourself.

I don't approve of the high-handed, clinical approach of this guy, and I'd say rather than think about him you should be making plans to meet more interesting guys or at least those who genuinely appear to be interested in you. You should consider him only when he re-appears to make his presence and interest more clearly known.

Also , why is this thread under 'Married Life' when you guys aren't even married. It should technically be under 'Single Life' I presume @IL_Admin ?

 

There is a possibility that along with you he is simultaneously seeing/dating couple of other girls too and will decide once finally. So, don't get skeptical or disappointed. Wait till the date you both agreed to meet and see how it goes. If you have his email or other way to contact, then drop in a message and wait....thats all. See how it goes. Sometimes, there is a possibility he became busy with work or some thing. Give some benefit of doubt to him. Just wait till your meeting date.

 

I think you should keep looking for more matches.This one doesn't have he time to drop a message.

 

Well I would suggest you to forget this guy and try the next one.
This is very common on matrimonial websites. You must be actively looking for a match and must be serious but sometimes the other person is just not into it. The guys show great enthusiasm before meeting and then abruptly stop after few months of beating around the bush.
There is also a probability of him seeking other matches in parallel.
I have also faced a similar situation. The guy kept talking and fixing the meeting date and then used to fool around. This continued for 3 months and then I blocked him. Later I felt that I wasted my 3 months unnecessarily with him planning and postponing the meeting plans.
A piece of advise for you -- Never go ahead with the guy who is not too serious in taking things further. If he really liked you and would want to meet, he would have definitely made an attempt to talk to you after fixing the meeting date. I agree people get busy with their work but they definitely do have time to drop a message mentioning about there busyness in life!!
Also,very imp: please involve your parents in such matters. Do not plan and fix meetings and all with guys alone. Have your parents have a word with his parents and fix a suitable date when you both can meet. This is a better approach and shows the seriousness and genuineness of both parties.
If you still feel he is worth a last chance, Do not send a reminder email right now. Better wait for the meeting date and check a day before if he would want to meet. If he says No or gives some excuses, Forget him completely.
All the best!!

 

If he is too busy to send a message or give a call....he is too busy for marriage.

 

Seriously @yellowmango .. Doesn''t sound genuine!!
Also, OP as per your last line in the message, I totally agree with what your parents are saying. 99% of the time, they are Right!!