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  1. Jul 29, 2016 #371
    dimhere

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    Did you have another IL handle before? Because I totally remember your previous name! (but I don't want to mention it here!)

    My reply to your first thread is one of the most popular posts by me in IL so far! :)
     
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    Ragini, reading this I was reminded of 'one friend Karna One friend Krishna' .... Haven't interacted with you but thought of saying 'Thank You!'
     
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    I still drop by this thread you know? But why jskls? E&G talks in E&G Chatter!
     
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    I know you drop in here too..: He he..: didnt know if Ragini visited EG chatter.
     
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    you are quoting her jskls am sure she will drop by to check wherever it is!
     
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    Need out of the box suggestions. I will be giving a gift to someone in person, a gift I know for sure they will like. I also know it will most probably be returned back to me, either immediately, or the next day, with a 'oh already have', or, 'don't need it right now'... 'is too expensive, so giving it back so it can be put to better use'....

    something like that.

    What could be a suitable reaction/response? One that comes to my mind is: "I am not a store to return things to. Keep it, throw it, or re-gift it"

    Looking for better ones. Thx.

    Cannot avoid the gift giving.
     
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    What if YOU keep it, throw it, or re-gift it, once you get it back the next day?

    Why do you want to FORCE a person to keep a gift? :thinking::confundio1:
     
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    That is almost always done to cause hurt. You sure you want to go through that?

    If giving is unavoidable, I would go with an honest -- "I put some thought and effort into that. I'd love for you to keep it" -- or a teasing -- "You want to get out of giving me a gift for xyz. You aren't getting off that easy."

    Only if that sort of candid talk is possible.
     
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    Rih ji! I wouldn't return your gifts, do I get one? Ain't I your pet bunny? :wink::tongueclosed: (just joking!)
     
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    I am asking about the reaction/response I can use when I get it back. I gather you are suggesting just take it back, and dispose it off as convenient to me.

    Not forcing. I am not looking for a way to force the person to keep it. Looking for a suitable response from my side.

    Giving is unavoidable. That person gifted me something before things got a bit sour/cold. I think I'll go for the teasing/half-smiling light comment of 'hey you are trying to get out of.....' and then smile and keep the darned thing on the table..... and then ......... I don't know.. log in to IL and ask ab mein kya karun. : )
     
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