Feeling depressed at times.

You should be lucky to have a husband who loves you... You should love him back and have a happy life.... A lot a women long for attention and love and you have it. Don't lose it for anything. It is most precious.

 

You are right, seekingbless. I think its one of the 'lets rile up IL' troll thread.

 

hhmmmm...... then we (or atleast I) followed Raginis quote "We don´t just feed trolls, we make them fat and rich and happy " .... :crazy

 

Red Ruby,
Yes you fed it In this case in this thread, even I fed it ! LOL!

But happens. Mostly you will find trolling will be on two or three main areas - either sexual/intimacy topic troll, or Extramarital affair type troll etc. These topics will get controversial or as they say "sex sells" and will garner eyeballs. Hence hot topics for trolls. When we see threads on these intimacy / EMA topics, before pouring out heart and writing reply posts, it will be wise to pause and consider the troll possibility. (yes agreed some of the ones in the midst of many trolling ones are genuine - one needs to really use judgement).

 

Please go to a counselor. Promise yourself not to do this again. Make sure you change. That could probably be the only thing you can do to save your relationship. When you feel like questioning your DH tell yourself, what if he knows your past. Obviously you be discouraged.

 

I'll tell you why you are fiddling with his phone - its to minimize your guilt ("i flirted with 2-3 guys..but hey my hubby is flirting too with his co-workers"). And just in case you do get caught someday of your past, you have something against your husband too. But the good thing is, your husband is a good man. Unfortunately, he has ended up with you! sorry to be blunt. But you have been given way too many chances, about time you rectify yourself and be faithful to your husband or just do him a favor and let him go!

 

Great!! Follow the path. There is a saying which says consider it to be morning when you woke up. So now you are awake, make the most of it and forget the past. Go out on a weekend somewhere and rekindle the romance.

 

I know most in IL will say "dont tell the hubby any past 2 incidents, lets kick the truth under the rug". Because just like an attorney, they represent the OP's interests.
The poor innocent hubby deserves to know the truth about the two occurrences of emotional and partial physical cheating.

If my (or your spouse) cheated behind your back, you would want to know the truth, go through grieving and decide the outcome, rather than think and be pretended that everything is hunky dory.

The poor hubby looking innocently at his wife - he DESERVES to know the TRUTH about the 2-time cheating, and then go through his grieving, and then he deserves to make HIS decision on whether to reconcile or what. Thats his decision to make.

I know the OP wont do it, and many wont recommend, becos the common suggestion is to screw the hubby's right-to-know, lets capitalize on his innocence and lets screw him over like "nothing has happened". Think "practical" and being practical means screwing the hubby's right-to-know and hiding things. When you look into his innocent eyes, hopefully conscience will prick and screw the offender. Becos conscience knows, and Well, there is something called Karma in this world, and when offended, Karma is a nasty bi...h.

 

ragini, well said!!! :2thumbsup: