Marriage help...

If you could give few examples of what & how he puts you down for, it would have been better.

He is a perfectionist, wants to do everything his way, frowns upon what you do. Keep your ego aside just a little bit, and tickle that funny bone of yours. He does not like something you do, ask him to do it. He criticizes you, invite him to 'teach' you. Then go and sit on the sofa, do your nails and watch him placidly. Be pleasant about it. Completely change your tactics. He calls you his kid, you call him your grandpa. Tell your mom in humorous way how he is. When he criticizes you in front of her next time, smile and give her a wink. He was bullied by his family into inferiority complex. You be what they never were. Constantly praise him for his efforts, however ridiculous it might feel.

Will the bummer realize he is being taken for a ride? Not as long as you are enjoying it

 

Other than office time, rest of the time, you spend together. How about giving him responsibility of an entire task, instead of splitting everything by two?

How about you spending some more time in the office - not to stay away from him but to thrive in your career and workplace? If a person is focused to succeed at workplace, it takes mind away from home. I am bit surprised that both people in this marriage are not stressed at work. Stress at work is not sign of success but having zero stress also means something.

 

Dear Op, step back and think for a moment is he telling you something totally wrong? Is his advice something? If it is then try to remember and do that way next time. If not let him do his way, may be he will fail and will realize himself. Don't make it an ego issue. Just have patience and deal with it. I like the suggestion by shreya to take it in a humorous way. About the sleeping stuff, you both are recently married, so it happens, just support him. this phase will also slowing go away.

 

Anger kills human. Stay calm atleast either one of you.

 

Sounds like your issues can be resolved it you both just work through it. You do not have major issues ie. inlaws, money etc, the fact that you love each other and have space to be able to work things out without interference is a a big plus.
I do believe if you both talk to a therapist or someone similar you can resolve your issues. Any marriage has issues , with love or arranged, there is always work to be done to resolve issues and compromising, in some cases one person gives in more that the other, and if it has to be you , so be it, if it is going to lead to some understanding and a better marriage, the early days are the most important, once you iron out the creases, down the road you will reap the benefits and find that things are geared to your way, its the initial set up that is painful. good luck my dear!!

 

You both bring out the best and the beast in each other. Try and outweigh the bad with the good by doing things that you both enjoy (like what you did when you were dating). Sit and talk it out. Sometimes it helps. Physical violence is a big No No. You are mature enough to realize what makes you get violent, so you should be mature enough to be able walk away, when you foresee such a situation. Give each other dome space when a situation like that arises. Take a walk, when you come back you will be a new person. That will give your husband time to diffuse too !

 

Too funny. Beast - Yes. Best - Evidence???

 

If you really want it to work, the change has to come from within you. Weather you hate it or love it, both of you should complement each other...Tell yourself, analyze what are the things you have done wrong, which I am sure you must have as well..try to fix those behavioral issues first, even if that includes anger management strategies. Then I am sure if there is no one to fight at home, even he will change automatically seeing you only smile and patient everyday.