How to select Mr.RIGHT in arranged marriage

Sudha , Just curios .. What is your definition of Mr Right ? What qualities do you want ?

 

Decide one way or the other only after you meet a couple of times. I had to say no to a person whom I thought was exactly my type in the first meeting. I could make that out only in the 3 or 4 meeting. With every meeting I would feel more and more unsure of whether i can live my entire life with that person, with my husband it was oppsoite though. Remember Honesty is the main trait to look for. Ask lots of question in general and come to know of his attitude.

 

stinginess, highly egoistic and dominating nature, selfishness ( always me, my preferences, my likes, my feelings) and not all thinking about the other partner preference, verbal abuse affect married life badly.

All the above are Red flags. See if your prospective groom does not have has these qualities.

 

The 'right' person brings out the best in you - unfortunately in an arranged marriage, one infallible way to find out, is quite literally...after you've taken the plunge.

 

Everyone react as per the situation and opposite person reactions and which play can favour to them. No one can behave in one manner, as coded program.

Impossible.

 

Just see for some green flags. From my experience, I will tell you:

My first alliance was a guy who gave that sarcastic smile when my mom offered him something to eat...
result: I said NO coz I thought he would never respect my parents

My second alliance was a guy who spoke nothing and his mom kept asking what are the properties we had
result: NO...you know why

My third alliance: A bit straight forward, asked his mom/dad/sister to come see me but clearly told their said that he has to decide so he wants to talk alone with me. Then he said he would still take care of his wife but he wants his wife to be independent. And lastly he said "My family will respect your side and you must do it too"
I said YES!!!..he never changed. There are other challenges but its not what he did. His parents sometimes are double standard but I am fine as I don't live with them.

I was soo naïve, just like you, but when you feel something is wrong....you are right.