Should I stay in the marriage for my daughter

Try relationship counseling first. If he doesn't want to I'd suggest getting out. Your daughter is going to think that's how men should treat women if you stay in the relationship.

 

I feel you should get a life of your own. Be bold and take a stand.

Nandita

 

First and foremost, please check if he has addiction to alcohol - don't ask him and fuel the problems more, but find it by yourself.

If he has no addiction, please give him space that he wants (even if it is to spend 24 hrs in his laptop) for him to take a retrospective on his actions himself - Try not to interfere for 2 weeks but during that time, you behave very normal but don't bother him.

Park your seeking-emotional-companionship-relationship etc., aside for that 2 weeks and during that period, you also take a look at where all you could've avoided irritating him. In process of you loging for something from him, you might have irritated him.

 

Divorce is not the only solution . Unless it involves Cheating spouse, and physicall/morally abusing spouse..

Whey dont you make an effort to find out, what is going wrong from your end, make a list of all mistakes you feel
you are doing in marriage, and try and change it for a while and see if it helps marriage..

His mistakes are always there, but y dont you start by thinking/making a list of yours and try correcting it,
take some time out and discuss with him, be very calm and open minded and ask what mistakes he finds in
you and what could you make to correct it, (slowly when things comes to track you can also point out his mistake
and expect him to correct,) Men has 100% ego more than women, unless you are ready to give in , i am sure he wont yield.

You said,
a. He helps in House hold,
b. He takes care good of your daughter,
c. There is no in-laws problem.
d. There is no financial problem.
e. Looks like he doesnt have extra marital affairs.

So there should be some reasons, of why he blames you, or why he is not showing interest in marriage.
May be some unresolved fights, men carry grudge too, try to talk and solve it...

BTW u havent mentioned, if your marriage is like this from day 1 ?

 

dear,

most of the men dont talk too much...they are too much close to thier laptop iphone etc...whatever you have written is same in my case...he is too close to my daughter...with me he finds fault....most of the cas i ignore it...som place i give a sarcastic smile and go....some i speak back which is very rare...but never i thought abt divorce in my life....keep yourself relaxed...when he is completely in his laptop...you enjoy cookig..take care of your daughter..speak to her...give yourself a me time.....once you start enjoying on your own...he will start approaching you....i heard somewhere that women has 14000 words to speak in a day and men has only 7000 words, which they finish in office and remaining with the daughter and if any left finding fault in us...so just chill..and be happy and keep praying and meditating....tc...

 

To be frank I also struggled lot in this area and learned a lot.it's simply priorites how our minds things.Try to change your mind set a little.
1)Size down your DD toys.If she is going to play center,she doens't really need to so many toys.So size down and assign a single room.
2)Cut down on food cooking
3)Call cleaners whenever you needed
4)Once he understand that you giving importance to his feelings then he will try to work towards you.Don't ignore his priorites.Once you start working and putting effort then things will fall place slowly.

In my view this is wrong judgmenet.Decipline should start from early age then it's get easy on you.In later it's difficult to discipline kids.Make her to eat at one place.It may take one or two week struggle but you will get there.All of you sit and eat at family dinner place.
I am not sure how old is your DD though.If you are really suffering may be it's time think about your BF too.You are exausted.When you are exsauted then it's not good to BF a kid.First take care of yourself.

But you need to remember.Not all our thinking is right.There is always better relation if you try to work on things which other person is intersted.At end of the day ,definitly you would see encouraging environement.

That's big no no Mom.You got o buckle up.I know it's motherly love for a small kid.But that's not right.You need to lovely whenever neded and you need to be stict on areas which needed.Beleive me later it's hard to discipline.This is the right age.

 

whatever ur mentioned earlier i have gone thru this...try to keep a cleaner to clean the entire house properly atleast once a week.....believe me your life will become easy...as you have to just cook ur food and also clean up the mess ur baby creates....also stress level will decrease from both the side and fights will be automatically recuced..tc..