Would You Go On Bday Party W/o Phone Invite?

Hi frendz,
Need honest suggestion.
Now I am in confusion here. I have a old friend who had daughter I never met. So its her first bday and I was excited when came to know via quick whatsapp chat last time. I have gifts saved for her. But I got e-vite, no phone call'.
Background: I was pregnant, I called to tell her. No phone later from her to ask /meet/see my LO/health check but whatsapp congrats......no connections after that. Abt yr later, call from her to tell she is pregnant herself. Me as a new mom is v excited and giving her tips and checking health via chats. Now her baby came. I called for congratulations/baby tips etc but she never picked ( I understand new baby, no harsh feelings at all).

Very soon, I offered sm baby stuff on chat and offered to come/drop stuff/see baby But could never go. My baby used to get sick a lot or i was travelling or busy or her friends/family at home or away. Her home is far in another town so needs planning.

When she got stable with baby, suddenly/surprising/some random whatapps quick chats from her about stress from baby caring/ILs.

Now couple months ago, had a chat and she said she will me invite me for her LO's first bday coming soon.

Then weeks ago, I got the evite, I saw it, was happy and I think I rsvp'ed. But I was surprised no personal message/call/check etc. Evite came long before and I did not expect no conversation/chat after that.

Should I go? Will it be stupidity to show up? Was it just formality invite? I want to see her LO but at the same time, I rembr she never came to see my kid or asked on chat about how is she. But that is no rivalary, but about right/ wrong

 

Thanks Guys.

I do not have lot of frenz with kids. Those who have kids first call + send evite + text/call as reminder. Even with busy schedules, people who as social they know and are well aware of these courtesies. Except some like me are not ;-) But I will go since I RSVP'd.