Worried mother

OP you are thinking too much....
I dont blame you though.Every mother goes through this stage and with your kind of anxiety.
I for one have faced exactly same situation.But now i feel i was so stupid because all the while i was constantly comparing my son with other children.He was active...learning things at his pace....but i had this constant fear what if my son doesnt turn out to be intelligent enough.
At one stage even a paed and her findings about my son got me really tensed.My son used to hardly speak 4-5 words when he was 18months and that too not the usual "achaa....amma..tata ...bye-bye" but name of few cars.
I slowly realised he would utter words which interested him.He resisted talking.
And we were indirectly encouraging him by talking to him in "his language"...i got him to join a day care for few hours a day, talked to him in just one language(so that he didnt confuse words)...and soon he was talking.
And now hes 6yrs old and very talkative.... just like me

So OP remove those IFs and BUTs that you have in your mind right now.
Your baby is doing just fine.
Take good care of him.

 

hi sadwife,
glad to see a fellow country ilites here. im from s'gor and mother of two boys, 3 and half and 1 and half yrs old.
and also glad to your tag "sadwife is a HAPPYWIFE now!! "
as others said, dont compare your child with other children. children are learning new things every single day, so continue to spend time and teach your son.
in our family itself, we have 5 kids in total, my 2 boys, my bil's 2 children and sil's one boy. and we make it a point not compare one with other.

 

Your mom's just showing her concern.But her way of doing it is definitely not right.
Till the time you are not confident about your child ppl (including your immediate members) will keep comparing him to other kids.
Learn to ignore those comments against your son.

 

My sister started to talk when she was 5. She never talked baby languages. She was able to form sentences when she started to talk. Don't worry too much. Each and every kid is different don't compare. As long as your kid is understanding what you are saying and paying attention and active there is nothing to worry about.

 

tell ur mum directly u feel hurt whenever she compares ur son with other children. tell her to stop doing that in nicely manner not to hurt her feeling. sometimes, old timers are very ignorant to other people's feelings.
my mum is the same as well, but she likes to show off her grandsons to others. like, oh ur child or grandchild havent start walking or talking? my grandson did that when he was at XX months. i will feel uneasy and embarrased, and hav told her so many times not to compare children because their development and milestones are not same.

 

OP,
If I remember right your mom has a history where she engages in power struggles...isn't that so? Try not to let her pick on you thru' your child.

Based on what you write he seems to be developing age appropriate receptive language. Yes, he will engage only for a few minutes when you read a book because that is typical at that age.

As much as you keep track of his speech, continue to expose him to a wide range of vocabulary and match them with signs and gestures. This will ensure that his receptive language skills continue to increase.

Does your son approximate words...in other does he engage in baby talk? Even if he doesn't use complete words these still count towards the word list milestones. Do keep an eye on his speech-even if it is delayed, remember it is not necessarily a sign of cognitive deficits...it is important to keep track of it so that he has a means of communication to reduce frustration and to participate in social situations.

Your best bet is to talk to your paediatrician and not over analyze based on others' reactions. Your child will pick up on your anxiety...so take a deep breath, be aware but enjoy this stage of his development.

 

Before we start giving tips,PLEASE stop comparing ur son with others from now on and forever.
And what is this thing about school,intelligence,medicine blah blah?he is just 14 months old!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel like u might pressure ur kiddo in the long run and also ruin ur health.relax first.

secondly,talk to the pedi. he is the best bet. involve him with other kids for playing.