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Wishing good things

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by falgunid18, Jul 23, 2012.

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  1. falgunid18

    falgunid18 Platinum IL'ite

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    sorry this is long post. But if you want to know the bottom line of this post, then jump to the purple lines in the last.

    ok. So my last post had a lot of depressive thoughts, frustation, sadness, yada yada yada and many of you also did not like my thread tittle as it was too depressing. So I thought of creating a new thread which will refelct positivity in the thread as well as in my and all Il's lifes. This could or could not be inspring to others who are also victimised by the mother-son love.

    If I (such a big emotional fool) can try to become independent and that too after seperating from 6yrs of love and 3 yrs of marriage then any other girl/woman can definetely stand up on her feet to raise her voice for her own rights , against selfish behaviour or try things for herself her own happiness. Trust me if I can, then you DEFINITELY can.

    ok. enough of bragging about myself. Now let me tell you the reason behind this bragging. Well as you might have guessed that my mood looks somewhat good now, the reason behind this is my DH came home yesterday (Sunday). He had called me on Saturday and I was out doing shopping stuff for decorating my house and grocery shopping, and he asked me where was I.

    As I was super pissed that my MIL got LED TVs, I told him that I was out for buying TV. He was like oo..aa.. hmm.. wwas trying to help me find a TV and I too told him oo..aaa...hmmm and told him that I dont need any help. If I can manage to live alone, I sure can manage to buy Tv also alone. No big deal. He did not call me at night to see if I reached home safely or not (which I normally expect), but did call me Sunday morning asking if I bought Tv or not.

    I told him no, I will try to fix my old one with laptop (and he knows very well I am very bad in all this). So while I was busy Sunday morning cleaning my apartment and decorating it with stuff I bought Saturday, my cell phone rang and too filmy but I somehow felt that my DH is down, so I picked up phone and rushed towards balcony and there he was :) :) :)

    He came, no huggings as usual (this time I also did not hug him), but he just told that he came here to fix my Tv with laptop (well he got a big bag of wires along with him and his small bag of clothes :) :) :)) and started with all his engineering on TV.

    So I cooked his fav dishes and he ate it so gladly and happily (obviously after all home made food is the best). Then we went out for shopping again. came home, I cookeed and packed food for him to take for entire week. He was very happy with that. Then at night we just watched some TV and went off to sleep. And today morning he left.

    All an all I am a little happy that I got to see him, be with him and that he could eat home made food. Also I had completely forgotten about, he reminded -- this coming weekend we had a pre planned travel and reservation to an event. So hopefully if all goes well, we will be together this weekend again.

    But to make all this above possible, support me in my toughest times, wish for me, pray for me,guide me etc etc, I really really really want to THANK all of you. and I just wish that all good things happen to all of us.


    I will surely keep all of you posted with what happens next. But I just hope, wish and pray that only good things happen from now on to all of us. I had enough of suffering, infact most of us had more than enough of our share of suffering. But not any more.

    So ladies stand up and daily atleast tell and do just one thing to yourself and us also :) what would you do or did that made you happy today atleast for sometime (inspite of the regular third degree tortures received from xxx --uhhh I dunt even want to mention the name who and spread any negativity). An attempt to do so itself is a big motivator in our lives. I want this thread to be motivating for all of us. So lets share our happiness to and let us smile for ourselves.

    I wish you all the good luck, love and happiness you deserve.


    So here goes what will make me happy today (despite of my current whinning) --
    I am a big food lover, so I will cook something special for me today (and anyways it had been ages I did that for myself). May be Chicken biryani or Chicken chilly :)
    Hmm... see now I can spend atleast half of my day thinking about what to cook and surf net for recipes.

    Your turn now :thumbsup



    PS: After all we deserve some happiness for ourselves too. We work, we love, we care, we sacrifice, we make others priorities as ours etc etc, but still we donot even get a simple smile in return. So why long or wait for someone else to make us smile. Let us make ourselves smile. All it takes is just opening lips and showing teeth :)
     
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  2. psych

    psych Gold IL'ite

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    AWESOME!!!! You both will make it!! Very glad and happy to hear it! Arent the ladies at ilites wonderful? I couldnt have done it without them
     
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    GodIsOne Gold IL'ite

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    I wish there was a 'love' button instead of 'like' and I would have clicked it atleast 100 times. I am so happy for you.
     
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    eandian IL Hall of Fame

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    Very nice falgunid. Both of you need time alone( without discussing about anyone else). Hope everything works out for you.

    You are one brave girl yet a lovely romantic.
    I think he got a bit scared that you might become too independent :)

    Nice of you to entertain him and pack food. But don't pack too many things. We want him to miss you na.
     
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    Pranjjal Gold IL'ite

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    Good news Falguni.

    Keep it up....Take care.
     
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    satchitananda Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Excellent going Falguni. Chin up and keep going. Let things take time to fall in place and once they fall in place, let there be no more upheavals of any kind. :)
     
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    Aaah, I'm happy for you Falguni! Please do stand your ground and stay spirited :) I wish a lot of good things may come your way, and let it just be the beginning :)
     
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    eandian IL Hall of Fame

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    Falgunid......Only one idea for you....You are not like your MIL. Dont allow her to change you into a different person. If you pay too much attention to her past words and actions, you will become an unhappy person like her.

    DH will not know the difference between the two of you.

    Be the person whom your husband fell in love with in the first place. That is the person he loved and that is the person he wants to live with.

    He should see a clear difference in love, honesty, maturity, attitude etc. I personally feel if I cannot respect someone, I cannot love them. So make sure you behave with dignity as well as loving.

    Very happy that you are overjoyed about his visit. But be a bit controlled in front of him. He should not think that he can always leave and then come back and in one visit make you weak in the knees. OK?
     
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    vidhyabharath Silver IL'ite

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    Wonderful News! Falguni, Keep going and all the best, As eandian said let him miss you for some things,:) ignore all the negative issues.

    Be positive.:thumbsup

    Cheers
    Vidhyabharath
     
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  10. vidhyabharath

    vidhyabharath Silver IL'ite

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    I too agree with this.
     
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