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Will You Keep Quiet If Your Husband Chats With A Far Related Cousin Sister Almost Everyday

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by SBRose, Mar 19, 2018.

Will you keep quiet if your husband chats with a far related cousin sister almost everyday

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  1. SBRose

    SBRose Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi Lovely Ladies
    I need your advice on this. My husband is not very good in communicating with his cousin sisters in general. He has no sisters on his own, But recently he is in touch with his far relative cousin sister almost every day in whatsapp and This annoys me. What should i do ?
     
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  2. iamsrihere

    iamsrihere Platinum IL'ite

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    See if he is maintaining the chat secretly or such that you dont see, and check if he is getting uncomfortable when you read their chats. If no for both the above, dont worry too much.The initial enthusiasm to chat may fade soon.

    If yes, for either of the above, you have a valid reason to feel suspicious.
     
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  3. shravs3

    shravs3 IL Hall of Fame

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    Is she married ?? Or if married Is she happy in her marriage ? You can casually ask your husband wat is it tat you keep chatting every day ? Wats ur intentions ask in funny way first :grimacing:. If he continues even after tat then it’s something serious
     
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    Sandycandy IL Hall of Fame

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    Hell NO ! A gainfully employed married man does not have the time to communicate everyday with his own parents sometimes, let alone a distant cousin. What could they be chatting about ? Memories of childhood or other uncles and aunts and cousins ? But not everyday, right ?
    Start by casually asking what he is chatting to her everyday and sit next to him when he chats with her. If he is uncomfortable or tries to hide , chances are the “distant” cousin is turning into someone “near and dear “.
     
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    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    I guess it depends on whether he keeps it a secret from me or not. It wouldn't really bother me on a normal basis, unless he is becoming secretive and protective of his phone. Have you met and chatted with this cousin? Has he offered to call her us and let you chat too? You are better at gauging if the interactions are platonic, so look for the other signs. On face value, this seems innocent, but there must be some reason this would bother you.
     
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    Anjana124 Senior IL'ite

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    Unless you are really very close you wouldn't be making a call to anyone. And that too to a different gender means they should be really closer since their childhood.

    Please try nipping it in the bud.
     
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  7. SBRose

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    Thank you Shri, but here is the full story -initially I didn’t feel suspicious as the reasons were like you said. But some messages were very intimate asking for her old photos etc. This was during last November and I asked not to chat. There was a big fight but however he said sorry and stopped chatting. I blocked her number, however when he got a new phone in December, I forgot to block & check. After three months now, i see that they are happily chatting more than friendly messages, when I enquire he quickly said he will stop chatting, I asked how can he continue to chat after he knows i am against it, he doesn’t have an answer but puts the blame on me that i am fighting all the time,
     
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    SBRose Bronze IL'ite

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    Thank you Shravs, Yes she is married, yes I asked why he does that, he doesn’t answer my questions but starts blaming why I check his phone etc, i feel it is serious too,
     
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  9. SBRose

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    Well said Sandy, exactly that’s the point, This Sweet chat activity does not match him who is so busy & arrogant with his wife and son,
    The problem is he chats while i am not around.
     
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    Thanks Bhumibabe, he is not secretive. I have not met her or chatted with her. We live abroad and i see that he spoken to her on phone when we went there in December from chat messages. You are right, one simple reason that it is more than friendly and ongoing even after i told to stop is bothering me
     

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