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Will this combination work???

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by sangeeta2010, May 21, 2010.

  1. sangeeta2010

    sangeeta2010 New IL'ite

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    This is a situation and please tell what you think would be the right thing to do. This situation is of someone I know very closely and I really care for her. I will straight jump in without further introduction and you also consider this as such.

    Both man and woman are highly qualified professionals. They are postgraduates from IIT. Both live in India and are placed in a well reputed organisations. They love each other and considering marriage.
    Both of them are highly motivated, fiercely independent,career oriented and just workholics. None of them is prepared to take a step backwards as that may affect their career growth.

    Do you think the marriage would be a success with such a combination?
    Pour in your opinions.
     
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  2. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    Sangeetha,
    More than being 'highly motivated, fiercely independent,career oriented and just workholics' the way they convey themselves to the other may make or break their marriage.

    If both are keen on their career path, it is fine until one expects to get it done at the expense of the other. That is when I would say they opened their 'box of Pandora'.

    Basically with good understanding, they can still manage. But it takes a lot.. I am talking about an ideal couple.

    'Reasonable' ambition towards career atleast at the later stages of marriage when they enter the family way is important. 2 workaholic egoists producing babies = marriage on rocks.

    Just my :my2cents
     
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  3. harinisripada

    harinisripada Gold IL'ite

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    As long as the household chores are divided fairly and one doesnt begrudge the time the other spends at work, it will be good to be "career oriented highly motivated workoholics"

    But the minute real life comes into the picture, extended family, care of in-laws, kids etc, and if one's career has to take a backseat, care has to be taken that they reach a compromise that both would agree on and be happy about... That may be achieved for some couples, if the woman takes a break when kids arrive and the man supports through with the other family obligations during that time and they find a good support system so that the woman can go back to work after a few years break.

    It just needs lots of planning, organising, mutual respect and consideration with lots of love and understanding and of course the support of their extended family...

    "Career oriented highly motivated workoholics" people can also make a huge success of their marriage!
     
  4. DecLadyDueAug

    DecLadyDueAug New IL'ite

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    I suppose you have already doubts on that combination
    but believe me it has nothing to do with career and ambitions.....focussing the ambitions in the right way is all that matters...

    Life has a way to teach everyone .........so if they are satisfied they can build a successful relation...........nothing can stop them !!! :)
     
  5. mithy232

    mithy232 Silver IL'ite

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    If the friendship they share now remains intact, then the marriage can be a success. If love creeps in, then I doubt it. Family life is different from Love life.

    Many of my college friends got married [Both equally qualified professionals - classmates] and now they became parents too in just 24 years. I don't know whether they are happy or not and cannot say that in their two years of marriage life.

    I personally feel this combo won't work at all. If the guy is too ambitious/career oriented then he might need an intellectual partner to share his life with but will not allow her to be serious about her career. Otherwise they will end up playing tug of war - "Who gonna be successful???"

    Exceptions are always there. Hope they make it!
     
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  6. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    It will be challenging, definitely challenging.
    But it can be managed only if both are mature and have understanding between themselves and understanding of changes that life will bring about.
     
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    kal123 Silver IL'ite

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    What is the deal with both of them being career oriented...they are human beings right?How much ever successful you are or career oriented you are if you dont have someone you love to share it with...I guess that life is utterly useless...May be they ll look back at their life at 40 and regret not being married to their loved one :idea
     
  8. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    kal123,
    Whos that in your avatar? (Dont mean to detract the thread, but a quick answer would be sufficient)
     
  9. Tridev

    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    Konkana sen sharma the actress. Take it easy now...:rotfl

     
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  10. Tridev

    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    Sangeeta I can answer on a 10 point scale. It may be blunt, On a 10 point scale my answer is 8-No and 2-Yes. Please dont ask my reasons, this is just my answer...
     

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