Will Kids Blame Laid-back Parents?

This question truly not required, only theory is that if a kid is good enough he will get success.It got nothing to do with parents or any others, if the kid do not show interest in studies he can very well excel in some other area.

 

Resist resist resist .... Finally gave up

Very laid back will it haunt me? Will know in a decade....

 

A friend once told me, "every good parent worries about his/her parenting style". So every time one worries about it, should have, could have, would have done it , I am already being a good parent, no?

That aside, I guess it depends on the child's temperament. And how you take it depends on your temperament.

Honestly, how many kids dont blame their parents anyway? Almost all I know , especially myself, complain. from something small to big. my list of complaints with my mom - Why didn't you make me more disciplined, why didn't you make me wake up by 6 am every morning, why did you let me snack so much, why did you let appa pamper me so much ( I can't blame my dad for anything)...

and mom would just shrug and say when she another child she will take care of these. And advises me to include those in my parenting so that my children won't complain to me.

 

If a child decides to blame his parents , then he/she might do it irrespective of how strict/lenient the parents were. So this really has nothing to do with the thought of how will they react in the future.

In general, it is better to mould children in such a way that they realise they are alone responsible for their actions at every step in their life. So guiding and supporting the kids to ensure they make good decisions is crucial.

 

Now as a parent, I too have my share of am I doing it right. While I do my best, sometimes the efforts of fellow parents does make me feel tad guilty,

Actually, I have told my kids - that we (dh and I) do what we think is best for them - within our means, at times even stretching a little more than should. Sometimes, we may be wrong, it may not turn out to be the best for them. It is really up to them to do what they can to improve themselves. DH though is plagued by self-doubt - are we doing enough, is there something we should have done? And picks my brain. My doubts vanish when he does that

I have already been blamed by my now 12 yr old ( when he was 8) for not having started him on chess lessons earlier. I enrolled him in chess when he was 6+. That was a 2 yrs too late according to him. I do ponder perhaps a budding Vishy was squashed thanks to my laziness. I told him too bad you got me as your mom, just make the best of it. Now you better work twice as hard to make up for that lost time. But apparently hard work doesn't run in this family.