Will I be forgiven:-(

I think you can apologise to them and say it was not your thought and that you are only an audience for your friend and her mum. Try to erase the creak in your relationship because thats most important since you value her more dearly and also you are definitely not wrong. Anyone would be doing the same. Cheer up ^_^

 

Shruthi,

What you did was really wrong. But I guess, you know that already.

We all make mistakes and shoot stuff out we wish we could take back. Afterall, you don't know the bride..... isn't it possible your friend and her mom were saying that crap because of the invitation snub? And even if that rubbish was true.... your Aunt's son loves his wife 'as is'... that includes her past and all. So, I think you should have left it at that. Who cares if the bride is taking medication? For all you know, it might as well be birth control pills or migraine tablets! Can't believe your friend working in the medical field, would compromise patient confidentiality like that... your friend should really be ashamed of herself. Don't you think if the bride is taking some medication, her husband would be knowing about it since they are now living as husband and wife? Obviously he doesn't have a problem with it... so you should have put a sock in your friend's big mouth!

If the bride is nuts or chronically sleeps around with tons of guys, let her get in trouble for the things she does starting now, in the future, in her marriage. Not rake her over the coals for whatever (if anything) that happened way in the past.

Next time you talk to your Aunt, apologize for what you said and for bringing such rude guests to the reception. Tell her that your friend had no right spreading those lies and you were foolish to have believed it. Already so many women face an uphill battle winning inlaws love.... now your Aunt may start to look at this girl under a magnifying glass. Before that happens, try to reassure your Aunt that all these rumors are just rubbish. Apologize to your aunt, then make a promise to yourself to be more careful in the future with what you say. It's ok Shruthi. It's doubtful any real damage was done. Just be thankful you learned this lesson with such a mature and reasonable woman as your Aunt. :thumbsup

 

Shruti, apologize to your aunt and explain her that what you intended to say was something else.

 

I just hope it doesnt add fuel to spoil a MIL-DIL relation...how is ur aunt otherwise..coz she seems to have started cribbing..

 

You can talk to your aunt and explain that you told whatever you had told about her DIL because of the way your friend and her mom confidently told about her and since your friend's mom is the DIL's own aunt, you believed her. And that you had your aunt and cousin's best interests in your mind and that is what prompted you to tell that. You could also request your aunt that whatever you told about DIL be forgotten as if she hears it, she would be hurt to no end.
This is just a patch work to the damage done. You will have to wait and watch if your relationship doesn't get affected.

 

shruthi,
Yes, sometimes we all say something and later regret on it...as u said you already know about your mistake...and I appreciate that you want to make it up...you have already cleared it with your aunt...now you are worried that aunt may refer your name to her DIL and that may worsen your realtion with her.....yes, it can happen...But in present scenario wherein you are not sure if your SIL (Bro's wife) knows what you told abt her to her MIL (your aunt), you cant do much to make up....So, dont stress up yourself about something which has not happened yet....If at all this happens, then you can very well approach the SIL and clear how you were just a listener to your fren and said few things because you were carried away with her/her mom's words, however, now realize your mistake....this should resolve the matter (if any) between you two...

Also, now since you have realized your mistake of unnecessary involvement in their matters, please do not repeat it...I understand, you mean good by trying to show the facts to your aunt....but, please refrain from it dear....it may lead to more misunderstanding (knowing the fact that your aunt twists words)...so, in future, if your aunt starts talking abt her problems with the DIL, you may plainly change the topic rather than advising her.....JMO.

~S.

 

Shruti, I don't understand why the brides MIL is saying that her DIL doesnt want to work. She has forwarded her resume to you which clearly indicates that she wants to work.
For God's sake its just been a week since she is been married! The only thing I can think of now for the DIL is that you try your best level to get a placement for her through your contacts.