Why Parents Keep pestering us?

Hi, don't feel bad. We are brought up to say that to any married young couple about the baby. Don't blame your parents. They are under pressure form their families and friends. Now everyone is expert in Medical field after googling stuff in the web. What about your in laws? If they don't bother you, then tell your parents about them. One of my cousin was asked by her doctor not to stress out about the baby. Relax and things will happen.

Enjoy your beautiful life.
CL

 

Parents will surely ask dear... Don't worry about tht... Tell them tht doc has asked u not to stress about anything n if they keep asking like this ur getting worried... Tell them tht u both have no problem... Doc has confirmed tht... N also tell them like doc himself/herself has told me to try for a year n only after tht opt for any treatment as we both have no problems... So, make them understand tht as of now u don't need any treatment to conceive...

Please don't get stressed out n strain urself... It's gonna make conceiving even more difficult for u... Just stay cool n happy... Tc...

 

You are not alone sweetie!
All the parents, relatives, friends who fit in "typical tradional" category be is boy's or girl's are like this. Its like a cycle they've set and they can't take any deviations.
Once you finished studies(sometimes even before that specially for girls) they start asking about marriage.
Once you get married they start giving hints and blessings and questions about baby.
Once you have a baby they start asking about next one i.e. boy if first is girl and girl if first is boy.
Then start the school questions.
Then their jobs.
Then their marriage, their children and cycle continues.
So best way to deal is ignore. Tell them you and your husband who are gonna have that baby and raise that baby would decide. And when time comes, you would let them know. Be firm and don't change your answer. You deal with your parents and let him deal with his.
Don't spoil your happines and dont unnecessarily stress yourself.

All the best. Be happy
Vaidehi

 

hi cholu

I guess all the married woman are pushed to your situation after 2-3 months of marriage..
And its quite common that parents keep asking after 4-5 months..
In your case as you are married for 3yrs it turned to bugging..
Just explain them that you checked with the Dr and he said you are fine and ask them to ask GOD and keep praying to give you a child..This is what i do
Anyone who asks me I say"inspite of asking me..Pray to God "
Don't worry!!

 

Hi cholu

I went through the same thing as I did not have a baby after 3 years of marriage.
What we did to avoid this pestering by parents / in-laws... I used to tell my parents that we both got checked up, i am the one with problem (PCOD) and my hubby is fine. And that i am taking treatment for it, and let everything happen in due course. If they started to ask any more than that, I'll get mad at them over the phone (since they are my parents I have the liberty to be angry at them !)
And my DH used to tell his parents that he's the one with the problem, and that i am quite upset over it and ask them not to bother me with unnecessary questions. He's a standup guy, bless him!
Because of this, i never got any interference from in-laws

From your post, I see that you are in singapore. May i know in which hospital you are taking treatment?
I conceived only after taking treatment here in singapore. Do let me know.

 

If you do start trying seriously, i would advise you to consult a specialist. Dr. Selina Chua at Mt. Elizabeth hospital (Orchard area) is very good.