Hi Ladies, May be most of ladies gone through my situation. but just i am trying to check is there any tips which can solve my emotional pinches. I and my husband got married 7 yrs ago with formal arranged marriage. some how by that time i had my own reasons to marry him except love. but later days i started loving him. that point onwards my pinches of soul started. That is expectation( i knew, its very dangerous). Expecting romantic talk...expecting spending time...expecting as dancer partner....expecting as party mate...so on...but nothing got solved in reality. My husband is hard woking guy and will work with tension always, because he want to put his family and his life in safe mode always. I am happy for that. He had love on me. i am sure. but i am sure he is loving me because i am in his wife position but not because of its me. I hope ladies can understand the difference. Even though its not me, some one else in his wife position he will love, he will do his responsibility. finally a pakka designed indian husband who has brought up with values and responsibilities. Ok i am happy to have such protector. we have a toddler(5 yr) and an upcoming baby production going on in my tummy right now. All are these as per his life plans. i am just cooperating instead of resisting. I kept hold on my career for second kid project work. so now i had plenty of me time with big bump(7.5 month) which will not allow me to do any travels, and any other movement works. Since i am pregnant most of work is carried away by him. he is not allowing me to do take any of responsibilities. he is afraid of pre-delivery. because i am active girl, went on pre delivery for first time with my over activity. until now i diverted my mind a lot with job, freelance works so on...but some later night..my soul expecting some heartfull talks and spending time with my husband. But since he is busy , he always carrying with his own works all time. I can narrate his daily schedule... Mon-friday: 7.30AM-9.30AM( get ready toddler for his school, dropping at school, journey to school in traffic. i am busy with making breakfast and snack for kid) 9.30AM-10.30AM: exercise and getting ready for office 10.30AM-9.30PM: office & journey together 9.30PM- 10.30PM: spending with toddler(Not with me) 10.30PM - 7.30AM: sleeping time along with kid(if he need sex, he will allot 15-20 min for me in between 10.30PM-11PM) Sat & Sun: 10AM- 11AM: waking up and having lazy breakfast. 11AM- 1PM: getting groceries, (not allowing for online shopping to save money) 1PM-4PM: I should prepare some of his favorite veg/non veg item and he is spending with either TV/toodler. 4PM-6PM: sleeping 6PM-9PM: again movies time in TV/online. Spending with toddler again.going to temple..or barber shop 9PM-11PM: news/dinner/TV most of weekend he is in REST(both body and mind. he is orthodox nature. so having some pooja works too at saturdays for every month) until 1 month ago i am too busy with freelance works. but my bump not allowing me to sit and hold laptop for long time. so i took break from 1 month. from that point onwards my impractical monkey soul started dominating on my practical mind . i requested him and even smoothly demanded 5 min personal spending time daily with me(with out TV, with out toddler, with out any other interruptions). but that 5 min time he is not getting/giving i don't know. but my soul want it desperately now(may be symptom of pregnancy mood swing). asking 5 min only not more than that to express love/to express my feelings/to express my tiny baby kicks on my belly/to discuss about my dream home/to discuss about my next career step(he is good mentor. since we both are in same IT felid)/ to discuss finance plans) heart fully we are living with his parents. so only our bed room is our privacy place. but now my kid not giving that privacy as well...on weekends. i tried lot of times to have 5-10 min spending time with my dear husband on weekend. but my husband shows laziness get out from TV /not intrested to have that 10 min personal time in bed room. even he comes very rarely immediately my toddler will run into room. i taught my kid lot of time about privacy rules. but since he is toddler he cares his needs only. seriously as a mother i shouldn't complaint, but true is my toddler is too much talkative. he is not allowing me and my husband to talk together at any moment. In car/ IN house/In temple/ In movie/ On bed/In hall. In walking...every where my kid is occupying my husband time. Its TRUE. he is not giving my husband time to me as well my husband also not trying to have personal time with me. Husband alo very intrest to have conversation with toddler but not with me. only during sex, he will praise my white skin and lusty talks. later after that 15 min, silent and sleepy. no more talks...no more conversations about other topics. Ladies am i wrong? how i can get 5 min of husband time to have heart full conversation which can satisfy my soul..which can get rid of my feelings burden? or am i need to make myself busy again to avoid my soul?