why my husband acts like this, my daughter went to india ( shes toddler). my husband was speaking everyday when the daughter was at his place since his mother cant take care , went to mom place he has not talk to my daughter for 10 to 15 days. i keep telling him she asks for daddy always whenever i speak to her he says ok.. in fact last time when i was doing Vchat with her he was at home she was calling daddy, when i said do u wanna talk , he has not freshen up he will talk later and we had fight later. whenever we flight he records my conversation.. i am quite short temper ( control untill the some point) i cant see his unfair things which he does always.. i shout at him.. to be honest initially he used to be very abusive , these days he knows i get shorttemper and i shout at him , he will reply very smoothly, later i got to kow that he records everytime. he records all the fights.. if i start recording , i did it once ( saying i will record ) his voice tone got changed and started crying saying "why are u spoiling my life" what an act.. does it mean I am fool or being so innocent ... Pl. find my previous thread here I Am Loosing My Confidence And Everythign Since My Marriage his family never treated me his member ( as i have already discussed here in the past ) , in other-way they never treat their son in law or daughter in law ( though they come from affluent families) as their family member like they make a photo frame with out including their DIL ( they include only son and daughter) . when they make calls they have no sanskar of asking about DIL ( how is she) . i feel so bad about all these.. his sister gave a photo frame ( which includes his parents my daughter and him ) to him while traveling back from india. does not he get a though what my wife feels ( my wife , me and baby staying ) how does she feel ? should i take this photo along with me ? should i keep it in display cabinet in front ( that was quit big photo frame) after it was sent , for 3 days i kept quiet . finally he placed on display cabinet. i got angry and yelled at him . then was felling very bad called my mom . my mom also scolded me infront him if they dont respect , u have ur respect and if they ask u whenever they call thats ok are you not ok ? if they dont include u in photo frame . thats fine ignore it .. my husband recorded that conversation also silently.. he always wish to secure and safeguard his family members. in fact when he says family even now he says my family and my wife ( am at the end always) . when he asks for girls things he says my sisters and my daughter ( wife is not in the picture at all ) why he behaves like that.. I am more educated than him .. today he has made property and has got a name in the soceity just because of me. I am earning and working hard . i have to take care of the home , kid ( her education , teaching, taking her out) and my work . have no time for myself. he will out of town for 20 days. hardly 10 days a month he will be in town . 10 days he will be busy in his work .. when i ask him what responsibilities you are taking he says when come back from business trip i will see if there are any taps spoiled and try to handy man work.. is the husband only for handyman work ? i told him many times i am finindig it difficult to be alone and manage baby and her things and at home .. i feel like going out with u spend time with u .now i feel why people go for extra marital affairs.. understand .. he says u r having this problem because of ur job change the job ..he says he likes traveling . whomever i meet friends, they will pity on me, after marriage i am still young ( its been 4 yrs since i got married) , I am a software manager ambitious and charming girl. how can you leave alone , dont you get bored if ur husband keep traveling .. in fact till now i do not know his salary also .he lies.. he spends for his sister and her family they are all later 30's nearing to 40 and extended family members.. i am in the need of affectionate and love ... i never had blissful marriage since the beginning .. for him his family is first we have educational differences.. i feel he is not matured enough to understand if say ( he is 6 yrs elder to me) pl suggest me any online counseling .