Got me thinking after reading threads and responses on IL but I see same pattern even when I talk to friends who have issues. Most common complaint heard is anger issues or not caring for partner/kids. Older generation women used to handle these quite well, general advice was to remain calm and nod your head till anger passes, then gently remind man that ultimately he is responsible to provide financial and emotional support to family. Later on talk through issues he is facing and resolve them. Most important, agree on change in behavior to ensure it does not repeat. Current generation seems to do opposite, they yell back, threaten to walk out, escalate situation further, talk about separation and in general do not resolve the issues. The unresolved issues keep coming back in cycles and get worse over the years leading to complete breakdown. Current generation also seems to think that women who de-escalate or politely work through issues are meek cowards who cannot stand up for themselves. In western countries there is active feminist groups that claim its OK to be single and its OK to divorce etc. They are missing the main point understood by older generation. Nothing beats happy family (even when woman is working or is sole bread winner), far far far far below that is a single unmarried or widowed woman and little below that are divorced women.