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Why Do Ladies Go To Urologist? Is It Because The Men They Trusted Has Betrayed Them And Don’t Care

Discussion in 'Gynaecology' started by SuiDhaaga, Jun 9, 2022.

  1. SuiDhaaga

    SuiDhaaga Platinum IL'ite

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    I get upset when I see women going to urologist.

    Somehow I feel then man in their life whom they trusted had betrayed them. Now they must go to Dr office alone.

    Similar thing Happened to me, ie I had paining bleeding urine. my ex was abusive during intimacy. Then he gave me some unknown antibiotic and it went away. I was scolded by my my family member (who was suspicious of him) for not seeing Dr. That way I can take proper course of antibiotics

    how uncomfortable must a woman or girl be going alone to Dr who will invasively examine them.

    or maybe I am projecting my bad experiences onto others


    I’m posting here because no one else will understand
    or maybe I am unschooled in this part of life
     
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  2. MalStrom

    MalStrom IL Hall of Fame

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    Women go to urologists if they have complicated urinary tract infections that cannot be adequately treated by their regular physicians. It is not a good idea to take random antibiotics indiscriminately since it will lead to resistant bacteria.
    Doctors are medical professionals, not sex workers. They almost always have a nurse or assistant in the room when examining patients of the opposite gender.
     
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    chanchitra Platinum IL'ite

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    Why. Dr is a Dr.
    Women can always go to a female urologist.
    Women go to male primary care physician , male gynecologist.
    Nothing wrong in it. It depends on each person's comfort level
     
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    Anusha2917 Finest Post Winner

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    My ivf Treatment was under a male Gynecologist. I was with him for nearly 5+ years. Atleast a 100+ transvaginal scans I would have undergone apart from the treatment itself where my entire lower body was in his control. Yes at times I have felt a bit uncomfortable but he's a doctor doing his duty and I am patient paying him. At times I have had difficulty making an eye contact with him during a scan. But that's how it used to be even with a female doctor. Whether a male or female doctor we sharing our body anatomy with anyone for that matter is a bit difficult.
    Nope. It's your assumption.
    I have had to visit the doctor alone at multiple instances. Simply not right to connect betrayal to this.
    You can always self learn these things. :)
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    In a government set up in India, employees are covered under a scheme for which a token amount is deducted from their monthly emoluments and the sick family members if employees have no choice of getting examined and consulted only by gender specific physician.

    Throughout my service, for ills up & below navel, i got to go only to lady doctor and once i was investigated for typhoid and for giving me a shot she had chosen the site and i was tad shy to get the shot there. But she did at my home in presence of my spouse. None had any qualms. The site of shot was behind my back - gluteus.

    Heart patients consult male cardiologists and he with stethoscopes listen to the sound of heart ( that often calls her hubby’s nickname) and lungs with or without presence of her spouse . Nothing wrong. Atleast they are not young!

    World-wide Deliveries in hospitals - natural or cs - supervised by male doctors!

    One must look for the expertisè for which payment is made!
     
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    sandhya2020 Silver IL'ite

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    Majority of doctors are proffessional but not all, ofcourse. Upbringing plays a bigger role. So to be on safe side, you can visit female gynec. But in worst case, if male gyne cis your only option- do not hesitate. They are generally more proffessional with women than even other general doctors, because they understand the sensitive nature of their proffession.


    I always thought urologists are for men's genital issues, and gynecs for females.
     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Me too. But having babies does a number on your pelvic floor. I wish men also underwent issues like incontinence after delivery, pelvic floor issues and the myriads of other things that happen to moms. Women generally go to urologists for these issues and also for UTIs that don't go away.

    I prefer going to the Dr alone. I feel like my privacy gets invaded otherwise. My time with my Dr is my private business. I don't know what DH will accomplish unless its during the pregnancy when he gets to see the baby in the ultrasound. Even then, for most general visits, I didn't want anyone accompanying me to the Dr.

    I started sending my teen DD alone to the Dr when she started driving. It accomplished two things. Gave her the privacy she needs to talk to the Dr and made her independent. I also don't give inputs on what to tell the Dr, what to ask for etc. The only thing I discretely research are the meds prescribed but so far she's done great. I was never made independent young. Even for pregnancy visits if my mom was around, there is no way I'm seeing a Dr alone. Which is why I started making my DD make decisions regarding her health herself.

    Have you thought about seeking a therapist? Someone other than your own family that can help you step out of your narrow frame of reference? There is only so much you can get from the forums. You can put yourself through a variety of experiences and learn from it but with the right kind of help you can accomplish much more in the same time span with considerably lesser anxiety.
     
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    I had to use public bathroom due to emergency . the one in those fields (plastic one), during apple picking. I got a urinary infection and had to visit.

    now i cannot go and beat up my spouse for cheating on me for that.

    my dear, you seem to carry a lot of trauma. talk to some professional for some time. your questions are 2 sided 1 genuine Q and other the deeper one which you need a professional
     
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    I guess my issue is, I want to share true intimacy with a good Man before I have to subject myself to a Doctors exam.

    I feel that happiness is for Indian boys who get all the gpfreedom while Indian girls are. It allowed to even see intimate scenes on TV


    Maybe because if they see intimate scenes in TV they will know they are being mistreated by an abusive spoiled self-entitled snake they married


    Yesterday I saw a lady go with her husband because urologist is male. When she did ultrasound with female tech, she went to the room alone.
     
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    Okay. I guess everyone is different.
     
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