It’s the nature. Not the culture. The concept of “respect for elders” can be used by elders to do good or bad things. Not all Indian elders are doing this. The generation before them (my grandparents) - they hardly completed school. They had no ego over money because they have done labor work. But their kids (our parents) many have degrees and get an ego and get others to do the labor work - even their own parents. My MIL had her FIL get vegetables from the market for years. And he came to her house by bike. That generation was active until very old age. And their kids used it to their advantage to help raise their kids. Then they claim that they are the only two who took care of their son alone with no support so they get benefits from his education alone. But my FIL and MIL just wants to sleep and watch tv and sit on his sons money. And have done nothing for their own grandchild except watch tv with him. It’s worse because if they come to USA they have excuses - we can’t drive to grocery store, we can’t speak English. Selfish! Here we respect our elders based on their behaviour/actions not their years on earth. I agree. If I am abusive to my son - even verbally. He is not required to just respect me because I am “elder”. I can get my point across by explaining to him why he should do things to be a good human. That requires patience, time and live. “Because I said so” requires no effort.