Whose responsibiliy is it???

OK, It's your brother responsibility or brother's mil responsibility only. But if your mom willing to do, its ok leave it, let your mom do it.

BTW, its been three months, who left to US, your brother mil? Because you said your brother is in US for three years. Then where the keys are? Must be with your mom?

OK, regarding your brother behavior and SIL behavior is really bad, being a brother he should send what you asked. I am not aggravating your anger, but be silent. Don't expect anything from him until he realize his mistake.

Sometimes if I talk something stupid, my sister get upset and she keeps silent, there will not be any calls from her even a month. If I call also, there will be yes or no answer, then I will realized my mistake and go to her home and talk to her. I actually don't talk the problem, but if I just make a visit she will be OK. So, just wait your brother will be OK soon.

 

I must say you are a very nice brother, Vjan.

My brother is too busy to even realise that I am not talking to him since some days, and even if he realises, he is not so sweet to come over and spend time with me to make up for it, he is least bothered if I am not talking to him.

Nita, it was wrong of him not to leave a pair of keys to your mom, but he might have done that under the influence of his wife.

But please do not in any situation advice your mom on how she should behave with her son, she is his mother! Your relation with him is different. If you continue to do so you will sour your relationship with your brother and your SIL.

Just get his house cleaned, he your brother after all! And more over your mother's baby, he will soon realise his mistake and feel guilty for it.

If you ask your brother for something, then he should get it right away for you, it was wrong of him not to do so, but why did you ask your SIL for it? You can directly ask your brother, as long as it is not very personal.

If he didn't buy it for you, then just let it be, don't ask for anything in future, why get yourself insulted?

 

If i am in OP's position i will never let my mom do that and also i will take it lite cuz if they wanted to clean their house they will do them self otherwise they should request me providing keys. :exactly:

 

Your SIL has no reason to feel bad, you grew up with your brother, you share the same blood, even if it is some clothes you want, you can directly ask him, no need to hesitate at all.

Let me tell what role you have to play in this cleaning thing......let your mother decide whether she wants to get it cleaned considering all that key issue, though I personally don't feel there is any reason to refuse, he made a mistake, but what is family for? You have to help him when the need arises.

If she decides to get it cleaned, and you feel she is too old to do it on her own, then you do it or get it done through cleaners for her, just for the sake of helping her out, not your brother, you got it?

 

OP, may I ask, what gifts do you give your brother and SIL? Do they ask you to buy things for them?

Also how is this giving you gifts thing related to the keys thing? Are you saying, if they gave you what u wanted, you would have let your mum take up responsibility for cleaning? Seriously?

Gifts are something that people give you our of their own will and choice. Do you have a job? If yes, you must buy things you need with your money! Are they really showing off or are you jealous?

I don't think your brother was right in asking your mum to have the flat cleaned. But That's between your bro and mum. Why are you poking in?

 

lol you says you don't think her brother was right is fine but u also says not to interfere in between her own brother and mother discussion???

you mean if one son/daughter goes crazy and disrespect their mother then other (son/daughter) don't need to bother about that???

IMO he should get it done from his MIL side only as he left keys with them.