Hi all, Mine is an arranged marriage. I went to India recently for the first time after coming here. I went with lot of expectations of spending some nice time with my in-laws and all the new relatives. But all that happened put me in a confused state. To start with, my in-laws are still young and financially sound. I have one BIL(single) who is a s/w engg. He also stays with my in-laws. Apart from all the things my in-laws wanted us to bring, we even gave them gifts like ipod,shirts, perfumes and many more. We also bought many gifts for the relatives. Its not just that. Whether we are inside the house or outside every time only my husband pays for everybody and everything. If any time my husbands runs out of money, my in-laws will pay and will make a note of it and takes that amount back immediately once we go back to home. If we go to visit relatives or if they come to our place, my husband has to pay for all the expenses like restaurants, autos or vehicles, cool drinks, ice creams and what not. Even if they want to pay once, my MIL won't let them, saying he will pay don't worry. Believe it or not, where ever we go, what ever might be the expense even if its not our(my hubby and mine) expense its my husband who has to pay. Even though my BIL has a good income, while we were there he always takes money from my husband for his expenses. For 1coffee(Rs.200), car parking(Rs.100) and everything saying he doesn't has any cash on him right then. For Rs.10 worth of things he takes not less than Rs.100. My in-laws are otherwise good, they help their relatives a lot. They also bought a car for my BIL. They gave him a separate room on his name and many other comforts even though he is earning. My husband goes to India once in 2 years and my in-laws make him spend most of the money that he saves in these 2years on them. Its not that my husband doesn't give them any money on his own. He gave more than 10 lakhs for my FIL's business alone. Evey time he goes to India he takes them and their relatives lot of gifts. I don't have a problem to spend money on my in-laws and for my(their) relatives. But I was only surprised by the fact that they treat my husband as their bank. Even more surprising is in return they didn't(never) spend a single Rupee on us. Its always one side road. So all this made me wondering does this happens in case of all NRI's. Is it just common in all NRI families.