Dear Friends, I am sharing 3 unrelated situations here. If you were asked to understand these situations and the people therein, what would you say? 1. A couple is married for several years now. It was an arranged marriage. The wife says that she had revealed everything about her- her habits, hobbies and other things that matter to her. She had even told her (then) fiancé that her skin goes dry and flaky during winters and so she ends up spending huge $$ on skin care. The husband had said he had nothing much to share but that he had fallen in love with her on the first date. During the wedding ceremony (which happened soon after), she realized that her husband's brother has a genetic defect- nothing serious or life threatening but considerable enough to hinder day to day activities. This wasn't mentioned to her before. Her firstborn inherited that defect and they had to undergo a huge expense- financially as well as mentally. The child recovered totally (and miraculously) after little less than a decade of treatment. Over the years, her husband has had recurring ear and dental situations that include emergency surgeries as well. He has had these issues since childhood. And her FIL has always been on medication for chronic depression. She keeps wondering why her husband who is otherwise a perfect 10 on 10 did not share this info with her. When she asked him, he replied that these are things that can be managed and that there could be some other things that may appear later in life as well. So why make a commotion about it all? 2. A young pretty intelligent doctor (F) is pursuing her grad studies in surgery. She was always a focused, mature and level headed girl. She lost her father when she was in school and she and her two brothers were raised by their mother (X) and grandmother. They are all honest, hard working humane people who believe in respect and commitment in relationships. The kids have been raised with these values. During the pandemic F was working at the hospital continuously. Her team lead was a young smart doctor (Z) and this team of 5 young doctors was constantly together. Last week, X received a call from a desperate sounding young lady who announced that she is Z's wife and that Z was having an illicit affair with F. She said that her repeated requests to both F and Z to think rationally about the situation have fallen on deaf ears. She was desperate when she called because her parents as well as parents in law had called her up to tell her that Z had called them to inform that he is thinking of divorce and marriage with F. She was shattered because she and Z were madly in love with each other and had married soon after their undergrad. Within 3-4 years their marriage was falling apart. X had absolutely no idea about all this and when she confronted F, F admitted to it all. F said that she doesn't want to be a home breaker but she is deeply in love with Z and cannot stay without him. F says she knows what she is doing is morally wrong but she cannot retrace her steps now. Z, wife and F were team members and all 3 were aware of their individual marital status all the time. Co-incidentally, F and Z's wife have similar family and educational backgrounds. X does not know what to do with the situation and how to help her daughter out of it. She has tried to counsel her daughter but there doesn't seem any change. 3. A qualified good looking employed girl in her late twenties is looking for matrimonial alliance. She comes from a respectable family and is eligible in every which way one may think. However, match making is not working out for her and the reason that invariably is shared although discreetly is that she was romantically involved with a classmate long ago, for a long time. Their alliance could not go through because of the difference in their religious backgrounds. That classmate is working abroad now and is engaged to be married. The girl regrets her immaturity as a teenager but does not know how to overcome this.