Who has more rights in naming the baby

Hi All,

I'm 6 months pregnant :thumbsupand we know the gender of our baby. Me and my husband selected a name for our cutie and we both liked that name very much. We started calling/addressing our baby now itself with that name and our cutie used to respond us back by kicking me very hard .

But all of a sudden today my MIL came up with another name and she is ofcourse a very dominating person :spin. She will make sure that we keep the name which she has selected by making a very big drama. I'm seriously frustrated with this:rant.

As a mother, i think i have all rights to name my kid. My husband also has equal right to name our kid and we both liked a name and settled for it. My husband agrees to my opinion saying that we as a parent have all right to name our kid and his mom has got nothing to do with that.

He even informed this to his mom in a very light manner, but for that my MIL replied saying that she will call our child only by the name she has selected.

We have no issues in that, but she is insisting us to keep the name she has selected as the actual name for our kid during the naming ceremony. Why are these people like this. Don't we have rights to name our kid. Can't we name our kid according to our wish. My mother never used to interfer in all these things and i really respect this attitude not just bcoz she is my mother.

Up to date, I respect my in-laws a lot though intially i suffered a lot bcoz of them. They treated me very very badly during the intial stages of my marriage and i had a very bad time ( we stayed with them in a joint family with 2 bil & co sister for almost 1and half years after our marriage).

Now both my husband and his 1st bro are staying here in US and since my MIL and co-sis had lot of issues and bad incidents during their visit to my BIL's place at the time of my co sister's delivery, she kind of started talking to me and reduced her communication with my co sister to certain extent. I do talk to my co sis very very rarely and from what i know is the problem is not with her, but with my MIL.

She is basically a very dominating person ( i know her right from my school days my parents and IL'S are good family friends before our marriage and our's is a love marriage, me and dh belong to the same caste, religion, so i know her attitude.

Intially co sister had a very good time with her. They both used to gel well though i know her well my MIL used to treat me and her a little differently and knowing MIL i never gave importance to it My co sis stayed with her only for 6 months after her marriage and then moved to US. We were staying together with them for almost a year and half with another BIL.

My co sis was with my IL"s again together for 3 months only during her delivery time.

My co sister faced a lot of problem becoz of them during and after her delivery and she kind of keeping a distance with them now. It's just a formal hi and bye calls that's it. She was telling me that they were dominating her a lot and she had depression coz of that and now she is happy.

Now i guess my turn started. We are planning to bring my mom and his parents here for my delivery and even before she coming here she started dominating saying that we should listen to her and should name our baby with the name whatever she has selected.

I really think this is ridiculos:rantI have all rights to name my baby as per my wish and being a mother i think i deserve atleast this.. How can i make her understand this... How can i avoid all those drama scenes she is going to make when she is here during our baby's delivery time and naming ceremony.

Dh is supportive, but i don't want him to get a bad name from his mommy coz of this. If he supports me openly, then she will make a big fuzz of this issue and poor fellow will be torn in between me and his mom. But the thing is even he did'nt like the name his mom suggested for our baby :biglaugh . Friends let me know how to handle this situation tactfully without hurting anyone's feeling ( including my MIL's):idea And yes it is definitely not that easy to convenience my MIL. She is a person who has this " Na pudicha muyaluku 3 kal dhan" attitude:crazy and i don't want to name our baby with the name she has selected. I hate that name :rant

 

Thank you all for your wonderful support. Even my husband said the same thing. He was actually telling me not to show any interest when his mom talks about the naming ceremony of the baby and just let her know that let's see...

He said finally it's us who is going to register our kid's birth certificate in the hospital and he has decided to register our baby's name according to our wish and he says he knows how to convenience his mom.

Even otherwise according to him they will be here for only 6 months and let them call their grand kid by whatever name they want and me and him will call our kid by the name we have selected... he is really a cool guy, it's only me who used to get tensed with all these silly issues. ( i know it's a very silly thing, but certain things in life i guess i have more priorities than MIL)

I can understand elders try to dominate thinking they will loose their diginity and self respect if they don't, i can understand my MIL's fear, she is ofcourse a nice lady to certain extent, but when it comes to these things i do want to fight for my rights and i have decided not to please her in everything she does :thumbsup