This is very good advice. In my case the monster was calm and acting like he was innocent. Everyone's case is different and you are right, it could backfire (although with Desi ethnicity, it is least likely, and this should not discourage @EagerForInfo for asking for help) But she must stay cool, calm, collected. @EagerForInfo Is it possible to write down all the incidents for the police, and explain what you wish to happen. That way they can read it just in case you break down (this is upsetting, how can anyone stay cool, unless they are a sociopath?) And please consider asking on the other forum how a call for help can backfire. The lawyers (or those with lot of legal knowledge) can help you in different ways. See, IL knows your situation, so they guide one way, and the forums.freeadvice forum can guide you another way. All the best!