hi all, i live in US and a mother of two kids and not in job(kids are my full time job). when i go to india my husband wants me to stay more in inlaws house and few days in parents house though he never stops me to go there. if i m going for a month then ratio is 1 week with parents and 3 weeks with inlaws. and this time i went to india for 4 months after my 2nd baby. and this time also 3 months to inlaws place and 1 month with my parents.. and in between for 2-3 days i went with my husband to my parents place. can any one imagine how hard it was with two kids in inlaws house.and without husband.really no help. in 3 months there was not even 1 day my MIL changed the diaper of the baby..and in my parents place there was hardly a day when i changed the diapers and gave them bath. it was just an example.. my husband never stops me to go anywhere but he said u r married now,so this is ur home,u should stay here more,and when u live more with my mother u will know each other etc etc.. is this always happen to u all that u hav to stay more with ur inlaws and less with ur parents when u go to india or even if u r in india but in different place.and how u convince ur husband to stay more in parents house if not more than atleast equal time period.