During the year 2020 there had been a few funerals. I could only go to one, and attend the others on zoom-like app. It had been a sad year. One good friend of the family has lost her husband. They had both lived and worked in America for more than 30 years, and have three children settled in USA as well. No financial issues for the widow. She has medical insurance, and a few years to get to medicare eligibility age. Fully paid suburban house, lots of savings, investments they had jointly owned, and his retirement accounts (IRA, 401K) fully moving to her name smoothly. In a recent conversation, we had talked about all those money, life, future issues. She had stopped the monthly money-wires that her husband was sending to his family in India.... widowed mother living with a brother's family, and a sister's family. Apparently she has not been in talking terms with her in-laws over more than a decade. And she also did not speak the in-law's language. After the zoom-chat, I wondered whether the widow should have continued the money-wire to the dead-H's mother, but discontinued the sister-in-law. After all, her dH had left behind a substantial sum. The widow could easily afford to continue. Anyhow... as I do not know the history of what had gone before in her personal relationships with the IL's, I didn't express my opinion. Should in-law relation continue after the demise of a partner ? Especially in such money-transfer or gift-giving protocols ?