What are the best ways to deal with visiting grandparents who continue to make damaging comments about grand-kids in earshot of the grand-kids? Examples: When grand-kids are young: - she is so thin, why? - why he cannot speak mother-tongue properly - why he still wears diaper at night - why she is eating with spoon? why not with hand? - why she still needs help in the toilet? A little older: - why waking up so late? - why watching so much TV? - why needs glasses? - why not doing well in karate class? why so weak? Teenaged grand-kids - why staying out late - why hair style like that - why talks with an accent - does not come to temple - so thin - so fat - on phone all the time - why showering late in the night - does not answer properly (because your comments and questions are like that) How to handle such comments from grandparents? How much should the grand-kids be expected to ignore such comments. Why. . .