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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by psd1955, May 25, 2010.

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  1. May 27, 2010 #11
    Malavika81

    Malavika81 Bronze IL'ite

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    Does this right solution have to be legal and not involve the phrase 'My spouse is sleeping with the fishes'? In that case, invest in a nice big Persian rug and move to a city by a river and start paying a lot of attention to those CSI episodes and make a note of what they typically look for.

    Look on the bright side. Atleast you are not getting divorced.

    Legal disclaimer: Kids, don't try this at home.
     
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  2. May 27, 2010 #12
    psd1955

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    I feel some understanding between the incompatible spouses can be arrived at, so that they are freed from being a "couple" as such; which means peace can be restored between them without formal divorce.

    Or it can be a divorce legally but still being formally together for reasons that makes formal "separation" disadvantageous in many other respects.

    My quest is how this can be achieved. Any ideas? Maybe we need to be a little creative and strike a new path in a virgin territory !!! Let's think!!

    Prad
     
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    Spiderman1

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    Just what are we talking abt here? "Free from being a couple"? But not divorced? I am left scratching my head. You need to clarify prad, it is very confusing what you are trying to achieve.

    Again, I am not sure what in the world that is?
     
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  4. May 28, 2010 #14
    mstrue

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    And all these pointless paths would lead us to where?! I mean.. Prad .. I am totally lost.. what are we trying to acheive here?

    And how is formal separation disadvantageous?
     
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    OOPALL

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    Spidy.. It's called friends with benefits...lolz
    I better wise up here, already in hot water with some other posts.:hide:
    On a serious note, I "think" meaning living under the same roof but not as a couple (relationship wise)

    OOPALL!
     
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    Malavika81

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    Well maybe one of them ( I am assuming this has to be the man in this case) can leave the flat, the car, bank balances and stocks to the other person, buy a saffron loincloth and head for the slopes of Himalayas. Maybe that is what the OP is insinuating as an alternative to divorce?
     
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    Vidya21

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    We might be talking about an open-marriage here... I guess. But it doesn't fit with the rigid-mindsets. :confused2:
     
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    mstrue

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    Vidya, My turn to :confused2:.. eh? what is open marriage? heard of register marriage.. :hide: but open marriage.. nah huh..

    And my guess on OP's "Free from being a couple. But not divorced" is: couple to the world, roomies between walls.

    My question is: why?! live or leave makes sense to me..
     
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  9. May 28, 2010 #19
    Vidya21

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    I thought they were talking about being freed from the emotional and other investment you have in a partner; so that both partners are together, but at the same time are free to explore the relationship with others, without it being considered infidelity/cheating.
     
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  10. May 28, 2010 #20
    mstrue

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    Thanks for the info, Vidya.

    (Room pottu yosippaangalo?!!! :roll:)
    (implied meaning: how do they come up with such novel ideas!)
     
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