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when can i have a healthy baby after an abortion

Discussion in 'Pregnancy & Labor' started by jyotsna9, Jul 20, 2010.

  1. jyotsna9

    jyotsna9 New IL'ite

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    Hi

    I had a incompetent cervix and i am fully dilated at 24 weeks and had an abortion 1 month ago(june 17).. doctors did not detect this early and what they told was they wouldn't check for it as it was my first pregnancy and i dont have any history ..and the sugested to have a termination as the baby born could not survive and be normal and healthy..
    That was really a hard decission to make for me and my husband..and now
    i want to have a baby how soon can i conceive after an abortion to have a healthy baby (Full term pregnancy)..

    This time i dont want to loose my pregnancy at any cost it is a terrible experience..help me out with the situation ..please

    Thanks
     
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  2. mridusudha

    mridusudha Silver IL'ite

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    I am really sorry for your loss. I know how you feel because I have been there..
    I had to terminate my pregnancy @ 20 weeks because of medical reasons... After I got doctor's clearance I conceived immediately again but I lost that one too...

    I could not take the losses back to back..So I took a long break..Almost a year and a half..Now I am blessed with a healthy baby..

    I know you must be longing to have a baby but please let your body heal both physically and emotionally...You and your DH both need to come out of this sensitive period...There were lot of times when DH & me cried together...We just needed to do that...We needed that time together to help us heal ourselves..But all the time we waited for a baby we NEVER lost hope...We always believed in God..
    Please believe that God is always there and he will bless and do what's best for you and your family...

    Also, wait till your Gynic gives you the green signal...Did they tell you any reasons or solution to handle the Incompetent cervix in the future?

    There is no fixed or certain time to wait and conceive again..It all depends on your Gynic's isntructions, your physical and mental ability to handle a pregnancy again..

    May God give you the needed strength
     
  3. daisymom

    daisymom Senior IL'ite

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    i m so sorry for ur loss dear .. hugs hugs

    plz give urelf some time before trying again. ur body nd mind need to be ready before you go ahead..

    talk to ur gyn and take a second opinion about when u can start trying again and what you can do to avoid the problem the next time.

    i wish u all the best. u will be in my prayers

    Love
     
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    rv8 Gold IL'ite

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    I am really sorry for your loss dear... I hope things will get better for you and soon you'll be blessed with a healthy beautiful bundle of joy!

    It takes time to get out of this trauma. When I lost my first pregnancy, I was so obsessed with getting pregnant immediately (as if someone challenged me to) but I was never successful. So being obsessed and worried is never going to take us anywhere. Please relax, take a break if you are a working woman and let time take care of the healing. And check with your Gyn when you can start planning again. Usually they ask us to wait for 3 months in some cases.

    Next time you conceive, please let your Ob/GYN know about your condition right in the first appointment. Since you have already been diagonsed of incompetent cervix, around 12th week you'll undergo a minor surgery called Cerclage where your cervix will be stitched to protect your baby. Good news to you is that with correct diagnosis, incompetent cervix can be controlled.

    Once again my prayers and strength to you! Take care!
     
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    ais_1982 Silver IL'ite

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    Hey,


    Pl dont worry...Let urself heal physically and emotionally...Better to have a gap of 6 months or later...Do discuss with ur gynaec...And since u have incompetent cervix, they wil surely do the cerclage next time...

    Have faith and be positive...All the best
     
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    Parul13 New IL'ite

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    hi dear,

    First you need to strong physically and mentally.you can discuss with this to you doctor.Take care.
     

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