What's In Your Cup?

Dear Madam Rihana,
Interesting take on "what is in your cup?"
We are advised only to share happiness and joy with others.
We are not supposed to share our grief or shortcomings.
Taking this aspect into consideration, you may not spill what you have
in your mind.On most occasions pretence is needed.I am reminded of Sai Babas
teachings." YOU NEED NOT OBLIGE.BUT PRETEND TO OBLIGE>That will become a habit in due course.

A small story.A girl disliked her mother-in-law.She wanted to kill her at any cost.
She went to Sai Baba and asked him to give some medicine mixed with poison.

Saibaba too agreed.He gave her a big bottle of medicine.He told " the medicine will
be effective,After all she is going to live for a short period.At least during this period dont show contempt and treat her well."
The daughter-in-law went home.She started pretending to be very affectionate.The MIL too reciprocated,There were no misgivings,no wordy fight.The atmosphere was congenial.The action which started as a pretence became real.

DIL really started loving her MIL.She repented for her seeking advice from SAIBABA and getting a poisonous drug to do away with MIL.
Her wish was that MIL should live long.

Once again she went to BABA.He welcomed the girl and said" I was expecting you. The girl repented for her early action and asked BABA to do something to reverse the ill effects of poison.
BABA said
"Anything that is started as a pretence
gets impressed in our minds and a pattern is formed to make it a habit,later on to be transformed into a character trait.

The drug I gave was not a poison.It was a tonoc.Glad that my advice for pretence has yielded desirable results. Be relaxed.Go home.Wish you a congenial MIL DIL relationship."

YOU NEED NOT OBLIGE. PRETEND TO OBLIGE.SEE THE RESULT

Jayasals 42

 

Indeed any habit dies hard. You pretend to be kind. You become kind. Right or wrong habit once formed difficult to give up.
If good is heavier and the bad is light in density both continuously poured into the cup which one would overflow. Of course the lighter ones will be out. Fill your memory more and more with positives and good. The bad memory by and by will by out. People Reading good books listening to good music and thinking to remain helpful to needy are seen able to maintain aplomb and serene and less feel hurt.

 

The habit

The word habit here Transport my mind to the article

 

@Rihana , wonderful message there- resonates perfectly with me.

I have seen mothers (in India) who shout at and hit their children for some silly reasons. the child refuses to drink milk, the mother screams on top of her voice. The kid is not sticking to bedtime or demanding bed time stories... fatack! the child gets a whack. The child wails, finally calms down and several times does not even comply with the original task at hand but ends up being hugged and pacified by the mother because by now the mother has realized that it was only her pent up anger and bottled up frustration that showed up at the slightest trigger. So in this case the coffee that spilled was actually the negativity in the mother's mind.

Talking of pretending and then making a habit out of something, while growing up, I would hear oftentimes about practicing gratitude- being grateful for all that we have eg roti, kapda, makaan (to say the least) & for all that we dont have eg vices,sickness, poverty, etc. When I started I would wonder why I have to thank for the basic amenities and facilities I have. I would consider them my birth right without realizing that they are my privilege. Nevertheless, I started my gratitude journey and kept adding things to the list of items that I am grateful for and it's like now the universe is paying me back. I have almost manifested things and blessings for myself. What started as a casual exercise (even pretense) has become my biggest reality.