What you sow is what you reap

sujanags · Jan 27, 2010

We would have comes across different level of fights, disagreements with many people in this life especially friends, parents, DH and in-laws. The most forgettable one is fight with in-laws and the words spoken by them.

I started reading this article during these situations:
- whenever in-laws speak bad things about me
- when they hurt me
- when I remember the words they spoke and feel bad

I must admit that I feel very relaxed after reading this and could speak to in-laws normally after that (as we live together). Many people writing in this forum are affected by in-laws behavior or talks or something like that. Please read this article whenever you face such situations. It makes your mind little relaxed and calm and help to proceed with your work.

Share your thoughts on how helpful it was after reading the article.

sreyaallari · Jan 27, 2010

Hey Sujatha, Thnx for the above post :hiya

Very thought provoking...... Have started to implement the forgive and forget the "anger issues part" in my life with my DH from this new year resolution. :hide:
I have to say that it seemed very diffcult initially but slowly I'm trying to be calm and not retaliate..... :bonk
I guess everybody is different, not that I'm perfect, we need to look mostly at the positive things with the people around us.

Regards,
Sreya.

sujanags · Jan 27, 2010

Sreya, Thanks for your comments.

Any comments from others?

SriVidya75 · Jan 27, 2010

good one!! thanks for sharing....

radsahana · Jan 27, 2010

hey sujatah

really nice one. On this line i have started one thread "Positives of your MIL" .

Even i believe everyone is not full of negative and full of positive, both these traits are there in everyone, albeit the balance sometime tilts to oneway or the other.

thanks for sharing nice post.

neha1 · Jan 27, 2010

wow..nice post..thanks for sharing:thumbsup

ultimately,we lose our peace of mind when thinking of all such issues...better to let go,on most ocassions IMO

Neha S

ShilpaMa · Jan 28, 2010

Sujatha, thanks for sharing the nice post.
I slightly differ here on the practise that we shud completely forget & forgive those who did bad to us... cos the day we do that.. we behave as normal & again present them with an opportunity to hurt us.

Yes we shud ensure that the poison plant doesn't become bigger than our life but then it shud always be nurtured as a bonsai with regular trimmings to remind you of staying away from that person.

kijo · Jan 28, 2010

good ones!!! thanks for sharing.i'll try to follow.what u said is right shilpa ma.we sholud not let it grow but also not to forget what has happened to us.

sujanags · Jan 28, 2010

Shilpa and kijo - Thanks for sharing. As you said, even if we forgive and forget the issue, we can still be careful from next time onwards.

Few people keep on thinking what happened and show the hatred feeling towards DH. Also they will spoil their health and mind. For those ones, atleast time being, it is better to forget about it and get diverted to something else.