Am a 40 year old, married, working with no kids. Am in a different state than my husband because of work. Am married to a man who is I don't to what to say. I am not able to say whether spouse is good or bad. Got married 6 years back. I realized that he was a different person before marriage. I never saw him getting violently angry before marriage. First year of our married life was a night mare. Was not sure what makes him angry and makes me lunge towards to me. If he says mean things than its a joke. If I joke then its not a joke to him. If he pours water over my head I should laugh , if I spill little water at him then I don't respect him. And he assumes that I will behave without respect towards his mother. By the way, ours is love marriage and his parents did not accept our marriage till now. I don't exist for his family. Am an honest and truthful person. I don't lie unless until I know that my truth is going to harm the other person. So after every fight, I will try to discuss it openly, instead of hiding it and building up. But that also leads to a fight, because whatever I say he will take it in good or bad, which I don't mean at all. For example, we are fighting about something and I say I think we should have done like this his immediate response is ok , so you are saying I did wrong. Then I have to explain no, I don't mean that, I am saying there are multiple ways to do a certain thing, and we could have done in this way too. But still it will lead him to believe that I'm pointing him that he did a mistake. And the way he talks so angrily with a loud voice, I get upset. If I explain that please don't talk like that, I am getting upset, then he will retard am not angry you are angry. Literally I ran out of ways. Am not talking back. If I know a situation is being escalated I disconnect the phone or walk away from him because I don't want a fight. I tell him that please I don't want a fight. And I become silent. But this is taking a toll on me. There are so many other things I want to discuss, but right now this is my biggest problem. I live alone. I am a shy reserved person. I don't have that many friends. I talk to only my husband, my family and couple of my friends. But because of these issues, am not able to talk to my family also as I don't want to reveal these issues to my family. I reached to a point where I can't take anymore. What should I do ?