@ OP, your expectations from your spouse are not wrong. Intervening at an extremely angry husband losing his temper on a small child is not wrong at all. It is not called micromanaging. Micromanaging is when you on purpose or unknowingly get inbetween a normal father-daughter conversation or normal scene of teaching and input your unsolicited adivces to your DH at how he should teach. What could have been done was to handle it in a better way infront of your DD. Instead of using words like "it was a miatake to ask you to help" or "you get out" or snide remarks on his childhood upbringing, you could just tell him to stop shouting at DD as she is crying profusely. Then without paying attention on what he blabbers or screams, focus on calming your daughter and taking her inside. Tell your daughter daddy is angry but its ok he will be fine in some time so not to worry. Never speak ill of him infront of your dd as that is what will scar her for life. If he is overal always abusive not a good husband or father then it's never going to be a good healthy environment for your DD. But if this angry outburst on her was just one off moment then you can let it pass with time.