Am noticing few things here: - Looks like your husband was living overseas even before you got married and you came here after getting married. People here like to do additional activities other than just working i.e. what he could be mentioning about going for yoga, gym, volunteering and other stuff. - You never mentioned about his family. What does his family think about all this? How are his parents reacting to it? I am getting a feeling that he was forced for this marriage or he is suffering from either BPD or NPD. Either ways not your problem. Better to get out of such a relationship.